Keeping my surname

[ettelloc]

Im getting married in September and my hubby to be doesnt want me to take his name, or our children to have his name, as he has his fathers name who he has no contact with. Would I still be Mrs with my surname and will I still need to inform people just as normal. Not sure how it works. TIA

[puddicat]

Why marry him,??? the mind boggles he can change his name by deed poll, why should you suffer and your children!!!

[bednobs]

i had the same situation - my husband did not want me to be associated with his dad. at one time we discussed him taking my surname, but i hate my maiden name and love his so i'm afraid i got my way. you can just tell people as normal

[Velvetee]

Why doesn't your husband change his surname by Deedpoll, to yours and then you will both have the same surname.

[gbradfield]

why not suggest that your husband take your name?

[andy-hughes]

You can call yourself any name you like as long as you do not do so for purposes of fraud, so yes, you can be Mrs Your-Maiden-Name if you wish, and explain to anyone ytou think needs to know.

[~max~]

As Andy said, you can take any name you like. Surely it's become common for the bride to keep her maiden name anyway.

lol @ Puddicat! A wee bit over the top, don't you think? "why marry him???" lol How would her and her children "suffer" from not having his surname exactly? It's only a name! It certainly shouldn't be a reason not to marrry!

[natalie_1982]

You don't have to change your name atall, I chose to because I wanted to have the same name as my husband and children. I can understand where yor husband is coming from though and i would suggest as others have the he changes his name by deedpoll to yours. I had a friend that did this; she was the youngest of five sisters so the family name would not have "carried on"; her husband changed his name to hers, to ensure that her family name continued!

[hau kola]

I didn't change my name when i married. Ive been a Ms since i was 16.

[jno]

as long as you're not trying to impersonate or defraud anyone you can call yourself whatever you like and so can your husband. You don't even have to change your name formally by deed poll, unless you want to change it in your passport etc too. Just tell everyone 'I used to be Collette but I am now going to be Ettelloc, please try to call me that.'

I have the same surname as my great great grandfather; the fact that I have no contact with him doesn't really worry me. Is that all that's upsetting your husband?

[McNoodle]

Why don't you all pick a new 'married' name and all change to that and start fresh?