Lets wait a while

[4getmenot]

What was the longest you ever waited to sleep with someone?

[Sasha-2008]

Well maybe he really does like her then and wants to do everything properly and not rush into anything. Maybe the girl before her was just used purley for sex. He might not have had any feelings for her at all.

[4getmenot]

oh yer no doubt the girl was just used for sex but If they are so inlove I cant see how they havent given in by now. I can just imagine it being a big anti climax with all the planning

[Sasha-2008]

yeah it does seem a little weird like you say its normal to wanna rip each others clothes off. How old are they??

Maybe he loves her as a person but not in a sexual way?? could be possible I guess. lol

[4getmenot]

27/28 thats exactly what I think I just think he got jealous when she was with other bloke so he asked her out to keep her to himself

[Sasha-2008]

Have you spoken to either of them about it?? If thts true then thats really unfair of him to do that and she needs to realise that he is not good enough for her.

[4getmenot]

well before they were 'official' she would stay round etc but they would just cuddle and I have said to her 'so what exactly has changed now you're going out?' and she said its just different. I hardly see her to talk now anyway, last time I saw her she rang and said 'what you up to coz ** is up the pub' that annoys me that she even had to mention that a nice 'what you up to I fancied coming out' would do, and then when she did come out she was on phone to him all night. I just dont trust the guy he's very sly and has even tried it on with me to test mine and my mates friendship.

[4getmenot]

I'd love for her to be happy but she is so insecure in herself this cant be helping

[Sasha-2008]

well I don't think telling her about him trying it on with you would hale and may even ruin your freindship. I think as harsh as it may sound you just need to let her get on with it and then be there for her when it all goes pear shaped coz it will sooner or later when she comes to her senses.

I know what it's like. I really liked this guy and we were sleeping with each other but he only wanted me for sex and nothing more and I went along with it coz I really liked him but I soon came to my senses and got out.

[4getmenot]

Oh that was a while ago he did it all as a joke and she was even there I think they were checking if I'd say anything. I went mad and said I didnt find it funny at all and of course I'd tell her. I dont play games. Sasha I was in same situation and I think thats why I find it hard watching them its just I didnt take him back when he realised he wanted me and to this day I still believe if I had of done I would lead a very miserable life right now.

[Sasha-2008]

Indeed guys want you more when you show no interest. But if they treated you that way in the past they would do it again. And if there is no trust there then theres no point. I could have never trusted the guy I was sleeping with but it kinda made it all the more exciting at the time. He was a typical player.

Don't worry too much about your friend it will all work out in the end there just might be a few bumps along the way.

[4getmenot]

exactly the one I liked was a player I would have gone mad going out with him watching his everey move as I know what he did to me the first time. and thats what my mate is like she started crying the other night because he hung up on her and then wouldnt reply to messages and his mobile had just run out of charge. Dont get me wrong I have told her I am happy she's got the one she wanted I just find this whole sex thing a bit strange.

[ummmm]

I think it depends on how much time you spend together. I've known my boyfriend since I was 5. From the first kiss we spent almost each evening together. Had sex with him after about a month.

He did poke me in the back a few times though....!!!!

[Sasha-2008]

guys are funny things. They say that us women are hard work but seriously guys really do my head in.

My b-friend had like this mid-life crisis the othre day then couldn't work out what he was worrying about. Just feel like banging my head against a brick wall sometimes. lol

[sophie_1003]

7 months but that was with my first (and current) boyfriend but I think that if we were to break up now I'd want to be in love with a person before I slept with them.