Where's my other half?

[Tock389]

Have been single for almost a year, and have just moved to a new city. Am not desperate, but really feel ready for another relationship. I've been told I'm good looking, but can't seem to find anyone.

Went speed dating in Feb, met a girl who I started seeing for about six weeks, but we were weren't really compatible. My question is, should I be out looking for someone or is it fated to happen? Try to socialise as much as possible but can't seem to find anyone.

Just be nice to find someone to share things with, go on holiday etc. My friends are all settling down and getting married. I've just turned 30 as well, which is a landmark age for a single man, apparently.

Sorry to mope, but any comments would be appreciated.

[SKA]

Wait...

Did you hear good things come to those who wait??

Maybe you should stop looking and you'll find her, or you could just be looking in the wrong place!!

30 isnt that old :-D

[jocasta]

I sympathise with you. I think you're doing the right thing, socialising etc, and not settling for someone who isnt right for you. I have found, from experience,  that when one is single you feel like you will never find anyone else again who will 'fit' just right with you, but, trust me, someone always comes along! I would say, try to build up friendships with people you already know/aquainted with (girls),  because as we grow older a lot of the people who are good 'potentials' are people who you get along with, not just 'fancy'. Always remember, "Infatuation dies as love grows"...but you probably know that already. Finally, try not to look desperate as women (and men) smell this a mile off and will avoid you like the plague....Good luck to you!

[Cappuccino]

I turned 40 this year. Fate, definitely... ;-)

[Litchick]

Hang in there!  The day I decided to be resigned to my fate of  being single forever was the day I met my husband!    Too bad I'm married, you sound like a great catch!  :)

[dmsjps]

I agree. You'll be sorry if you rush into something just because your friends are all doing it. Don't worry about being single when they're married because you will still have the freedom to come and go as you please, go where you want when you want without having to take anyone else into account, etc. Be selfish while you can!

 

You have an extra pressure on you anyway, moving to a new city. That in itself can be quite stressful. You're good looking so you won't be short of admirers and you're right: it is fated to happen when it happens, so nothing you do will change that. You'll know when the time comes that it's right.

 

I don't think 30 is a landmark age for a man (or a woman) really, certainly wasn't for my husband. 40? Well maybe. You're still young and you have loads of time ahead of you so make the most of it, enjoy!

[Morrisonker]

You don't even need to socialise that much, just do what you're happy doing and that's how you'll meet someone that you have things in common with. 

Good luck, she's out there!

[Cockney_si]

I usually find if you openly and publically declare that you've given up on relationships they soon come to you, weird yes I know but it's always worked for me.

[Englishbird]

I'm in exactly the same position, I'm 30 in a couple of months have been single for a year and was ready for another relationship, after trying online dating, meeting nice guys who just weren't right and awful guys who've just let me down, i'm at the stage of giving up! I know they say when you stop looking it will happen, but it can't be forced, you can't 'pretend' you're not looking.

For me, I am vowing to myself to concentrate on myself.  On my work, on my home, my life style, my finances.  Making myself as happy as i can be.

Relish using every corner of your double bed, relish never having to tell anyone where you are or what you're doing, look at your friends in sympathy when they have to leave the pub early on a really good night because their wife has rung them 17 times.  If I want to eat spag bol every night for a week, I can.  If I want to spend �100 on shoes i'll never wear, I only have to ask myself.  Try and look for all the possitives in being single and enjoy them while you can.  It won't always be like that and at least you'll be able to relate to your children because you will have lived before you've had them.

Am I convincing you yet ;o)