If you wanted to go to a funeral....

[devilspawn]

but knew that the family expressly didnt want you there (for reasons of their that you KNEW were hypocritical)........ would you still go?

ps sorry to be sombre :(

[flobadob]

I'd say you'd end up feeling worse if you go than if you don't. What if a scene was caused due to your presence?

[caslass]

I believe funerals are for the living not the dead. The dead don't know you are there. The living do. So pay your money and take your choice.

[craft1948]

I went to my father's funeral even though his second wife didn't even tell me he'd died....I only wanted to make sure the nasty bugger was dead.

[Justincider]

Only if there was the promise of a slap up buffet

[bigfoot3000]

Or a free bar.

[craft1948]

My nan's funeral was excellent.........the wake was at my cousin's pub and until then I never realised how many relatives I had and how many were complete p!ssheads.

[Orson_Carte]

If people can not behave at a funeral then there is no hope for them. Personally I would have gone.

[Justincider]

Bigfoot, free bar, even better.

[devilspawn]

Cheers guys.... I know some of you were for going..... and some were for staying away....

I stayed away, and so did a lot "our friends"... and if the afterlife really exists then he is gonna really have a lot to say to those who kept us lot away!!!

Anyhow.... tis the weekend.... sorry for bringing things down a little.... thanks for all your responses x

[NoMercy]

Just as an afterthought, devil, you could maybe make a donation to his favourite charity or plant a push in his memory. Or you could invite all your mutual friends round and having a celebratory evening of food and drinks in his honour - sort of have your own wake where you play his favourite music, etc - and you don't have to invite his family because it's YOUR shindig ! I'm sure he'll smile down on you. :-)

[kia cat]

I think you did the right thing not going. As others have said, you can pay your own respects where and when you want to, in the company of who you want with you.

If you had gone and it all turned ugly then that would've been in your head, rather than it being a celebration [or however you see a funeral] your ex's life. It would've overshadowed the main purpose of the funeral.

[NoMercy]

Plant a "bush" btw... you don't want to plant a "push".