Why am I feeling so jelous?

[proudmary]

Hello all, I feel such a fool, my husband who I love dearly hasn't been very well lately, depressed and has no confidence, he started to make a few friends online so he could chat during the day when I am at work. One of these friends (a lady) has travelled over 150 miles today on the train to see him. I am at work with a knot in my stomach, lump in my throat and just want to weep even though I know he loves me. I said it was ok and that I didn't have a problem with it which i didn't until now, I've been poorly myself lately with gynae problems and am at Dr tomorrow to see if a biopsy is needed so maybe that's what's making me feel so vulnerable. Then I'm thinking if I had only known someone four or five weeks would I make a 300 mile round trip to see someone just for a couple of hours? I'm sorry I've rambled, I just feel absolutely bereft and if I rang and told him he would be so upset that I feel this way, what can I do?

[cazzz1975]

Thank you for the update mary, As sara says any subsequent meetings should be informal where she can meet you as a couple.

[mazie]

Good luck again Mary. Just do tell him how YOU feel. I know he must be all over the place with his depression but you count too. And do ignore some of the negative responses, it's hard to know whats what when you're not in that position xxx

[welshlibranr]

I agree with cazzz Mary, make sure that if they're to meet again, you're included, otherwise it's a no go!................You can't possibly know her motives, she may be innocent, but I would be very wary!................

[NoMercy]

I've had way too much wine to read all the posts.... has your husband, at any point, tried to conceal this friendship from you?