word to describe...?

[joko]

sometimes my boyfriend will feel like you 'have' to do something to help, so he doesnt feel like he has done everthing for you, like you have to have done your 'share' and helped clean up...

for instance...he will clear plates but leave one ...just so that person has to 'do' the job to..

or if he makes something for you, he will set it down on the table just out of your reach so you have to get up and get it...rather than hand it to you...its childish and petty i know and doesnt really bother me, (he is OCD with cleaning you see so i kind of expect it) he doesnt make a big deal of it, but i have noticed he just does it...but i wondered if there is a word for it...? or a description?

like a fear that others are gettiing away with something, that you are doing more than your share, and its not fair, and its not equal, like its a hardship that he cant have alone etc.


its kind of subconscious too - but when questioned he'll say dont be lazy, why should i clean up after you...sort of thing...ill say because you are going out to the kitchen anyway and have one empty and hand - and because i am you girlfriend and you should be happy to do me little favours like that...
also because i will take my plate next time i am going to the kitchen - not make a special trip just to take it....

cheers

[roger]

How about "petty" ?