How can she be a lesbian?

[dollypins]

My friends mother has just come out as gay. I can't understand how you can suddenly decide you are gay. She's been married to her husband for 16 years. My friend is really upset and hopes that her mum is just having a midlife crisis.

Either it's a phase she's going through or she's always been gay? What do you think? What advise can I give my friend?

[Teddy_boy]

Lots of little turkey basters running around without a dad.Will they grow up to be delinquent turkey basters?Thats the question.

[S_C]

huh ?

[joggerjayne]

Goodnight, guys x x x

[boxtops]

Not necessarily, teddy - some of them are cared for by male couples, not only by female couples.

[S_C]

night jj tc

[Teddy_boy]

Do turkey basters need a father figure ?

[annadomino]

It wouldn't be a very big baby, would it? Turkey basters would carry 8 ozs max ?

[boxtops]

I think this thread's gone on long enough now :-(

[Teddy_boy]

I will bow to your knowledge.Are you a lesbian?

[sunny-dave]

Goodnight John Boy ...

[boxtops]

Night night teddy....

[Teddy_boy]

Night mom and mom.

[jno]

well, since I gave pseudo-funny answers, I should give a serious one: just tell your friend to stand by her mum, whatever life she chooses, but stick with dad as well. These family upheavals aren't easy to deal with at any age, but don't take sides or look appalled.

[craft1948]

Does anyone want some size 5 pink Timberlands?

[Teddy_boy]

No dungarees?

[craft1948]

No but I've got a boiler suit..............

[Teddy_boy]

Do you fix boilers?

[Zhukov]

A delightful mixture of v.funny British humour,and home-spun wisdom. :-)

[rowanwitch]

Hi Dollypins

Bit late to enter debate.... I was married for 13 years befor e my husband left me for a man... he didn't act anything like any of the gay stereotypes... I then met a lovely woman and we were together mostly just as friends in the end for over 18 years I am now with a wonderful man... I am probably best described as 'the woman next door' I wear make up and feminine clothes and most of my gay friends are the same...

Try to respect your friends mum for finally being true to herself and support your friend get some more information from reliable sources the lesbian and gay helplines might be able to point you both in the direction of some good websites... things are much easier to deal with once you understand them better.

Finally your friends dad will need some time to get himself back together... he is probably questioning every aspect of his life right now, so your friend will need your support

try not to worry too much though these things have a way of sorting themselves out if people remember to care for one another