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How can she be a lesbian?
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My friends mother has just come out as gay. I can't understand how you can suddenly decide you are gay. She's been married to her husband for 16 years. My friend is really upset and hopes that her mum is just having a midlife crisis.
Either it's a phase she's going through or she's always been gay? What do you think? What advise can I give my friend?
Either it's a phase she's going through or she's always been gay? What do you think? What advise can I give my friend?
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Its strange as there were no clues, nobody suspected as she's a very feminine woman. Hair and nails always perfect, salon treatments, girly clothes. We don't know if she has left for another woman but the whole town is talking and some people have made a few remarks behind her back. My friend feels really embarrassed. She loves her mum but her dad is heartbroken and shocked and he is hoping she'll change her mind.
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There are a lot of women who marry and have children, possibly for the sake of conforming to family expectations. Only later do they realise that life is really passing them by, and feels they cannot deny themselves any longer. She must have found someone who has brought about this change. It's a dilemma for everyone involved, but she should follow what she feels is right for her.
they don't have tattoos on their heads, you know. you may be young, but do stop being so judgemental. and i think your friend should be too, otherwise it will damage her relationship with her mum. how she does that is beyond me as i don't know her, but that's the truth of it. her mum is an adult and can do as she pleases and will not have done this to 'hurt' your friend. she really does need to realise that, but it is natural to be shocked and take time to adjust, but never judge. i'd really like to think that lgbt issues had really moved on these days, but...it will take time and acceptance.
your friends mother has sexual tendancies towards the same sex.
many people who have these tendancies hide them to the point of living a hetrosexual life for years.
your friend will just have to face the facts and let her mother be who she wants to be , and hopefully respect that.
The best way to do this is to think of it as if the shoe was on the other foot.
remembering that " coming out " was not to popular until fairly recently , and as she was trying to live what was considered the normal life with a partner and children as well as trying to subdue these urges and wants , it must have been very difficult to finaly have to lay their true self out on the table so to speak.
your friends best way to face this is to talk with her mother , remembering to be supportive and not objectional , as im sure she would want her to be if the situation was reversed.
many people who have these tendancies hide them to the point of living a hetrosexual life for years.
your friend will just have to face the facts and let her mother be who she wants to be , and hopefully respect that.
The best way to do this is to think of it as if the shoe was on the other foot.
remembering that " coming out " was not to popular until fairly recently , and as she was trying to live what was considered the normal life with a partner and children as well as trying to subdue these urges and wants , it must have been very difficult to finaly have to lay their true self out on the table so to speak.
your friends best way to face this is to talk with her mother , remembering to be supportive and not objectional , as im sure she would want her to be if the situation was reversed.
