If love is the highest emotion then why does it not work both ways?

postage | 10:08 Mon 13th Feb 2012 | Relationships & Dating

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I’ve known a friend for over 15 years ---well he’s more then a friend. But we don,t live together.
Due to some technical problems within life styles.
He claims he loves me but I have never loved him but got used to having someone around when needed.
He’s obsessive and very insecure. He’s moody and can turn on you at the slightest of thing.
Last two years I’ve completely gone off him and find it very difficult even to sleep with him!!!! What should I do.

Because lack of passion he swears at me a lot

How does he feel about me?

Old ex-friend resurfaces

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pa___ul3

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for people to be friends, not even just man and woman, there needs to be mutual respect, and for there to be mutual respect, there first has to be self respect. Without wanting to sound too harsh, I think you both need to work on the latter!

11:23 Mon 13th Feb 2012

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Andyvon

I'm assuming this isn't a wind up - I've fallen for them before!

I don't think you have a clue what love actually is Postage. It's sad you've obviously never experienced it instead of thinking sleeping with someone is love - especially when you admit to having 'gone off him'. Sex is just a mechanical act for you then? Just something to be done if there's nothing else on TV?

Find yourself someone you do love and who loves you, then you might realise how ridiculous your situation and question are.

boxtops

If you're just having sex with someone you don't like, for the sake of having a bloke around who abuses and swears at you, then it's time to get a grip on yourself - what the hell are you doing, staying with this man - particularly when you don't even leave together? You are just using each other for money or sex. Life is worth a bloody sight more than this. He's insecure so he abuses you so you'll think you're worthless and won't leave him.

Stop this, now - don't let him in your house any more. Just tell him that you don't love him, you don't want to be with him, you'd rather be on your own than with him - which, tbh, is exactly what you are saying. Tell him the truth, for God's sake - stop pussyfooting around with this man you don't even like.

boxtops

^ live together....

TWR

Its time to close the book & say goodbye before the hand starts flying. no-one should have to put up with the things you mention.

dannyday5821

wait what?!

youve known each other 15 years, you call him a friend. okay...

he loves you (or you claim he loves you... so whats the truth cuz that just sounds like your interpretation of the truth and not an actual fact) and you dont love him.

but your sleeping together?!

ask yourself... what the hell is the point of any of this?! how the hell did this happen?! and then to say your just used to someone being aound... i can understand that - but then dont tell us he swears at you alot - do you think maybe your body language is making it obvious you dont love him?

id quit it asap - the whole thing sounds like a lovless pointless mess