Lapdancing is it cheating??

[tinkerbell23]

Further to my thread
http://www.theanswerb...3.html#answer-7243162

Just had friend on phone again.

Would you class a visit to a lapdancing club & paying for a private session a dumpable offence? Or even cheating?

The guy in question was alone btw. Not in a group :0(

[albaqwerty]

Mr Alba worked away from home in the early years of our marriage. He told me some of the guys went to various places but told me he didn't.
If he did, so what? I never knew and wouldn't have known anyway.

ps This site is not good for my imagination with BM and her defrillies :-D

[LoftyLottie]

Sqad shows his true colours!!

Mother Theresa indeed!!

[ummmm]

Same old same old is Sqad judging other men on his past behaviours.

Sqad, I've been good mates with my OH since we were little. I know more or less everything he's got up to over the years. You don't feel the need to hide your misdemeanour's from your mates.

[joeluke]

Men who tell their partners they 'haven't and never would go to a strip club' either really want to go but don't have the bottle to, or have been to them but daren't tell their Mrs

[woofgang]

Or maybe (and here's a novel suggestion) they haven't and never would go to a strip club. Not all men are liars or letches or both. maybe its about time that certain posters on here stopped judging all men by their (dubious) standards.

[woofgang]

Flounce! flounce! flounce! Sqads gonna flounce!!!!!!

[emmie]

would be a deal breaker just him going there.

[ummmm]

Yes, going alone makes it quite seedy/leery.

[grffindoor2011]

If compared to a male stripper on a hen night then no.

I've been to lap dancing clubs and had a couple of private sessions. Generally speaking it's no touching even privately (although one did offer more which I refused) For me it was a laugh in my 20's.

I wouldn't go to a lap dancing club now, but then, when I was 22 and single it didn't matter.

For me personally it's a form of cheating and could give someone the excitement to move onto other things.

[mrs.chappie]

My OH doesn't have a problem with other blokes being 'entertained' in this way, if that's what they want - he just says it's not for him. He's turned down stag do's because he's not interested, and I certainly haven't tried to stop him going. Quite the opposite, in fact.

It's been said before - not all men are lecherous, nor are they henpecked because they choose not to partake.

[LoftyLottie]

griffindoor. I think you are absolutely right. A young single bloke in his late teens early twenties usually would go for laugh with his mates. A mature man with a partner, unless they are deprived (or depraved!) wouldn't be that interested, and a mature elderly man going alone is just simply very sad and seedy.

[askyourgran]

I don't think my man would fork out all that money for two sessions, just to look, he's far too tight. And he wouldn't tell me if he had, in my book it is dumpable.

[LoftyLottie]

Definitely dumpable - even if it happened after being married for 40 years plus in my opinion. At the very least consigned to a separate part of the house for ever!!

[joggerjayne]

Not dumpable.

[DaisyNonna]

Cheating or not who needs a man who wants to ogle other women and pays that much money to do so? Reduces women to sex objects. Definite dump.

[askyourgran]

Not jj????????????? How could you trust your Bf if he goes looking for that. My Oh would be talking falsetto if he ever paid for private tittilation or - whatever it was that sqad had.

[Smowball]

Just seen this thread - so are you ladies saying you would or wouldnt mind if your OH paid for a private session/s and you found out?

I would be furious. Not going to the club itself would bother me, for drinks and a look, but the private thing.....no way.

[ummmm]

It's a 'no way' from me as well.

In my opinion you don't do things with other people that would normally be restricted to the bedroom.

Him going to a club wouldn't bother me though.

[Smowball]

I meant to say him going to a club WOULDNT bother me lol. With mates, having an ogle over a drink is harmless enough I think. But the private thing is just step too far. Dont know what I would do if my hubby did that!