Confused about what's happened

[Mummyme]

For about 2 years me and my ex have been in contact, I contacted him and he kept it going. Over the past few months he's confessed that he wants me back and that he's in love with me and wants only me and we were soulmates. We met up back in June and it was great, we got on so well and we both thought it felt so right. He's in a relationship and so am I but we are both so unhappy and just want each other, or so I thought. End of August after a great talk on the phone, he went quiet. I texted a few times and had no reply. Today I texted him asking what I had done wrong and he said nothing, but he can't be with me. I really don't understand it. He said he doesn't even know how he feels anymore. I'm so confused on why this is happening so suddenly, he went from loving me to not even wanting to know in a month. Please can somebody help me understand? We are both 25 by the way. Thanks for advice or help!

[pizza]

I'm confused as well, where does the guy you are in a relationship with at the moment fit in your plans??? has he any idea about your contact with your ex??
As for soulmates the way your ex is carrying on he has no soul or any idea what he wants in his life, I wonder if you hadn't got in touch with him would he have got in touch with you ? I don't think he would !
Sorry to sound so harsh but when relationships go downhill and people split it's for a reason and very rarely does getting back together work because people grow and develop.
Neither of you are being fair to your current partners and you both need to move on leave your partners because it's obvious they are not right for you both.
I'm not sure how long you and your ex were together but it's time to move on and look to the future.
All the best.

[jan01]

I think thats really good advice pizza .... all the best ..

[pizza]

Thanks jan hate to see people wasting their lives over relationships that are not meant to be.

[happyone2]

There is no more to be said !!!

[Canary42]

Sounds like a case of "Grass is greener on the other side", in both of you. But he has possibly realised this and is being cautious as a result. I think you should look elsewhere.