add oil to a heavy bottomed pan medium heat, and cook the curry powder, 2 or 3 spoonfuls, up to you how hot you want it, fry for a few minutes, then add chopped onions fry for a further 3 or 4 minutes then add chicken, beef or whatever meat you're using, fry until the meat is cooked thru, about 6 or 7 minutes, add a can of coconut milk plus half a can of water, also add a chicken stock cube and teaspoon of brown sugar and a splash of fish sauce if you have any, no problem if not, and simmer for 40 minutes or longer, the longer you slow cook it on low heat the better, 2 or 3 hours is not a problem. keep tasting it, if its not spicy enough add a little more curry powder. For a better curry add potatoes at same time as coconut milk. I base this on 3 people per can of milk. So, in summing up, one chicken breast (diced), one potato (quartered) and one onion (chopped) per person. I cook this in the morning a leave on very low heat for about 5 or 6 hours, the flavours do really come out. It may not work for you first time but the more you try it the better it will get. As I said before, just add curry powder until you get the right flavour for you. Good luck.