Jealousy

[I-say]

how do you get over the feelings of jealousy?

[nobjob]

you punch the bitch in the kisser and tie your man up in the basement

[rugeleyboy]

you remember that life sorts itself out!!

if its meant to be its meant to be,and what makes you weak makes you stronger!!

[Poglet]

good answer nobjob! its easier to get over jealousy tho, envy is more difficult so best to work out which it is... is it over a person or a thing? pog :)

[rugeleyboy]

i cant define the difference??

other people and there things used to make me jelous?

[UKbloke04]

not sure..i don't get jealous :)

[nobjob]

its an extremely evil emotion , its so horrible to feel jealous . if you can look on the situation and take advise that you would give to your best friend . we are always more sensible when it comes to giving out advise rather than taking it ourselves.

[bellasasha]

hiya ukbloke....hows u hunni?

[I-say]

its definately jealousy. Over a ex partner, so I really shouldnt care now. But I do, and want to get it over it quickly as its eating away inside, and I cant seem to function right.

[aggiela]

I was ssssooooo jealous of my first boyfriend i hated him taking to other people (women or men) before me i was his first his last his everything right? Well I was for about two years till he called time on us and rightly so if I may ad. I was a bitch. I never realised how bad I had been till I started going out with a man who acted in the same way. I dumpted him, 2 years later met my ex again and married him! That was 4 years ago and we're very happy now. YOU have to accept people look at people it means nothing. I look at other men cause I find them atractive my husband does the same with other women. It means NOTHING! Sort your own insicurities and safe your relationship.

[rugeleyboy]

i-say, do you remember the most annoying things about your ex, well he/she is doing that now with someone else!!

she/he is being a mardy b*stard,who is hard to live with,obnoxious and a total w@nker!!

[I-say]

Thanks rugeleyboy, for that, I was just doing that today, thinking about all the nasty times, and how he was (i am female by the way) and then suddenly I thought about how nice he was too..........at times... Just wish I could wake up some mornings and not still think about him!

[Poglet]

I-say

Jealousy is horrid but a good saying I read when I was going thru a tough time was the following and I used it as my mantra!

"Someone who is hurting you is, by definition, not your friend"

and another favourite at the time was:

"Feelings are not facts

Feelings can be trusted to go away

They always do ......"

So, give it time and good luck :)

[I-say]

Thank you for that poglet. xx

[Jennykins]

Im not sure... Maybe ask your self why your jealous of that person..do they have something you want? are they really pretty or have a great personality? When somebody(you) gets jealous its because your feeling insecure about your self.. and your jealous because that person has something you want....

I guess you could try telling your self all the good things about your self... maybe you have great hair and a pretty smile and you can do math better than anybody you know.... Just let your self know that your strong and worth being a happy confident person...

Take care of your self I-say--- and try not to waste your time being jealous over somebody else and what they have .... instead .... think of what you already have..

I guess thats my advice... -JEN

[WendyS]

Probably by increasing your own self-confidence and esteem and valuing yourself as an individual. That way you will not be looking at every other person as possible rival or competitor and feel inferior all the time, which is possibly what causes an individual to feel they "have to fight for possession". Jealousy is one of the most stifling emotions in any relationship and in the end it will choke the life out of it.