ChatterBank1 min ago
Boyfriend troubles
My question is this my daughter's boyfriend has been being hot and then cold with is feeling towards my daughter since Christmas. They have been on a break for about three weeks (he needs space) but nothing has changed as far as them acting like a couple. Friday night he talked for about three hours about their relationship and that he wanted them to basically get back together soon. He came and watched a movie at our house Saturday. Sunday, Monday he didn't call her at all so she called him Tuesday and he told her he needed space because he was confused about his feelings and that he would always love her and that they would get back together but it would be awhile. My daughter wants to know if you think he is cheating, stringing her along till he decides how he feels. Do you think she should move on and forget about him or what should she do.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.i think he is probably sorting himself out with another girl to move on to but doesn't want to burn his bridges until he has somewhere else to go - men are just mean like that and especially so when young (sweeping generalisation i know but i think its mostly true).
I would suggest she toughen up a bit and stop waiting around for this chap to have his fun ... e.g. she needs to get out and have some fun of her own! (don't take him back you'll regret it in the long run)
He sounds like he is calling all the shots with no thought for her. I think she needs to give him a reasonable deadline by which time, she should give up on him and move on. If they are young (18 or less?) the chances are they are indeed, too young to be "settled", and it is hardly surprising that he isn't quite ready to stay with one person yet.
Maybe she should just set him free. That usually does the trick. She should give him as much time and space as he wants- and leave him. This will, if nothing else, make him realise if he wants her or not. It does sound to me as though he has had enough of the relationship but is too spineless to finish with her. After all, he can still see her, come over, watch tv etc. But she can do better!
MOVE ON... If she stays with him this time she's gonna always think it's okay for men to treat her like that.. This will make her strong for her next relationship.. Why should he be the one to decided if he wants her now or later, She should be the one to decide whether she wants to put up with his butt or not.. If i were her I would leave. Guaranteed he will come crying back as soon as he knows she doesnt want him anymore.....