17, pregnant, abortion

[extra1234]

If im 17 and fell pregnant not through a lack of protection but because protection failed and i knew i was going to have an abortion, should i tell the guy ive been dating for 6 months about the pregnancy and abortion etc. The thing is i dont want anyone to know ive had an abortion for obvious reasons as kids can be so cruel however i dont know if i fully trust him not to tell anyone. Im scared he will confide in a friend who will then tell someone else etc. Or im scared that when we break up, he will tell people and everyone will find out. What should i do?

[RATTER15]

Toldyaso, I totally agree with you!! It is harsh on the guys sometimes though.

[lady-janine]

best not to let him know. some things we just have to keep to ourselves and live with. it does sound as though you would be wiser not to let anyone else know about your secret.

good luck on whatever you decide.

[The-Toff-]

i am not an expert in a situation like yours, but i do know that if you dont want anyone to know about it, dont tell anyone about it. if you do it will soon get out.

[4getmenot]

why didnt morning after pill work? And you say you know relationship wont last, so can i ask why you are with him? You sound very mature and level headed and hope you find someone you deserve and can trust.

[4getmenot]

yes taldo he could but you also dont know them so could do complete oposite in my opinion he has the right to know.

[4getmenot]

i actually agree with what you're doing to keep it secret but also believe a father should be told.

[sara3]

are you saying the morning-after pill didn't work?

[4getmenot]

yes taldo he could but you also dont know them so could do complete oposite in my opinion he has the right to know.

[NOX]

That's dreadfully unlucky, having a contraceptive failure and then the morning after pill doesn't work either

[Prudie]

The chances of two 17 year olds staying together long enough to raise a child together are slim (I know it does happen). An abortion is something you will be aware of all your life and I doubt it's something you would want to think you've shared with him 20 years on. You sound mature and level headed - personally there's no way I would tell in your situation if you don't want others to find out.

[welshlibranr]

you don't trust him!................tell nobody!...........Then it is a secret!............hard to keep to yourself though!.............You need to have someone to confide in!...........

[Mamyalynne]

If this is the boyfriend that lead to you feeling used with regards to sex, then maybe it would equally be a good time to end this relationship.

Take some time to evaluate what you want out of life, this is a time for refection I feel.

[grannie39]

think very carefully about this before you do anything.there is always adoption. but if you do decide to go ahead tell no one. remeber the old adage, "I have a friend, who has a friend" best of luck in your OWN choice.

[joko]

i would not tell him... no good can come of it ...it wont change anything, and he certainly wont thank you for it

he could turn nasty - and if he tells him mum, sisters etc they may turn nasty...who knows...people have differing views on this sort of thing

i would just try to put it behind you.

[Paul22118]

Abort and keep it SECRET, I mean NO ONE. Dump him and start afresh.
New relationship, new outlook and be careful.

[rowanwitch]

for afety incase something goes wrong you need to tell at least one person who would be aware and could tell a doctor in an emergency situation either that or have the details written dowand carry them with you for a few days afterwards then burn the paper... chances are it will all go perfectly smoothly and then you can pick up your life and carry on...a little sadder and a little wiser..