Guys is this an excuse?

[chizzy22]

He says he's breaking up with me 'because he wants to spend more time with his mates' Has he just gone off me? We've been together a year and I thought we were really happy... which is why I'm so shell-shocked. He's 40 by the way. Any clues would be greatly appreciated. I'm gutted!

[ummmm]

Do you not let him see his mates or something?

He's dumping you...he's just trying to be kind about it.

[puddle-duck]

Seriously, I think he's done you a favour. Let him walk, in fact I would hold the door open for him.

Like others have said, it sounds like he has commitment issues & is using this as an excuse to cover up his own insecurities.

Get yourself out there & find someone who is worthy of your time & love. You can do better than that.

[chizzy22]

I wanted to say thank you again. I printed out all my answers and stuck them up in the kitchen! Whenever I've been down and my heart has been aching I go and have a read. Your advice has been so helpful and has kept me going this past week! I think the answers you all have given will help others too. Oh the other things that have helped me are retail therapy, new hairstyle, manicure... and a Bach flower remedy called 'let go' ;-)