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Unreasonable dad ?
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I'm divorced & live my son.His 21st birthday is coming up in October.His mother & sister have offered to buy him a tattoo to celebrate the occasion. I've told him if he gets a tattoo I will throw him out of the house. I think i'm saving him from mutilating his body,& saving him from embarassment in later years.What do you lot think?
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Ok carrust..as you wouldn't throw your daughter out for becoming pregnant you are obviously deciding to be very choosy about the mistakes your kids make.
A baby is for life too, you know ~ and can have far more devastating effects on people than a tattoo. You are not trying to stop your son from making a mistake. You are simply forcing your opinions on him. That's a different kettle of fish.
You have opinions that are based (probably) on the job you once had. On the other hand you may have always been like this, I don't know. In any case, your question is no longer valid to me as it appears you aren't thinking of your son at all but yourself.
A baby is for life too, you know ~ and can have far more devastating effects on people than a tattoo. You are not trying to stop your son from making a mistake. You are simply forcing your opinions on him. That's a different kettle of fish.
You have opinions that are based (probably) on the job you once had. On the other hand you may have always been like this, I don't know. In any case, your question is no longer valid to me as it appears you aren't thinking of your son at all but yourself.
I've just read the replies on this thread and I'd like to say I am shocked at you Carrust!!!!!!!!!!
From where I am sitting your son sounds more mature than you! You really do have a blinkered view!
You posted a Q on a forum expecting everyone to agree with you and when we didn't you asked a Q seeking someone to agree! If 20 people disagreed but one had the same views as you, which way would you have gone?
I think you need to cut the cord, give your son some credit and allow him to grow up and make his own life descisions!
If you kick up at something as small as this then he won't come to you with the really big stuff!
My mum and dad always told us they didn't like tattoos and they tried to put us off it so much that when my sister hit 18 (she is now 19) she went and got one on her back! She wanted it more because she was told she wasn't allowed it but she knew she could get one as she was old enough!
From where I am sitting your son sounds more mature than you! You really do have a blinkered view!
You posted a Q on a forum expecting everyone to agree with you and when we didn't you asked a Q seeking someone to agree! If 20 people disagreed but one had the same views as you, which way would you have gone?
I think you need to cut the cord, give your son some credit and allow him to grow up and make his own life descisions!
If you kick up at something as small as this then he won't come to you with the really big stuff!
My mum and dad always told us they didn't like tattoos and they tried to put us off it so much that when my sister hit 18 (she is now 19) she went and got one on her back! She wanted it more because she was told she wasn't allowed it but she knew she could get one as she was old enough!
Hi carrust, just thought I'd mention that tattoo's can be removed at a later date if so desired and the attached site shows a number of ways this can be achieved.
http://www.patient-info.com/tattoo.htm
http://www.patient-info.com/tattoo.htm
That's a load of bollow, Nemesis. The son is getting his body tattooed. He isn't tattooing his dad is he?
His son is an adult, not a child. His father is threatening to throw him out of the house. No doubt he would have threatened the same if he had been younger than 21.
He asked for our opinions and he got them. He seems to be the type who would stamp his feet (or worse) if he doesn't have any agreement with others opinions.
His son is an adult, not a child. His father is threatening to throw him out of the house. No doubt he would have threatened the same if he had been younger than 21.
He asked for our opinions and he got them. He seems to be the type who would stamp his feet (or worse) if he doesn't have any agreement with others opinions.
Nemisis.... thats all very well said that his son isn't reciprocating the respect but why the hell should he? He isn't asking to borrow his dads car! He is getting a tattoo on HIS OWN body! He isn't tattooing his dad or asking them to get joint ones!!!!! He is doing something that will have ABSOLUTELY NO affect on anyone but himself! No-one will think any less of him for having a tattoo except his dad and if you ask me.. if thats how my dad felt about me then I'd rather not have his respect!
Clearly many of the answers given are from people who either aren�t parents, or who are perhaps unable (or unwilling) to understand the motivation behind this man�s actions.
As a caring parent it is only natural that he feels protective towards his son, and wants to prevent him from doing something �he thinks� he may later regret. The threat is heavy handed and misguided yes, but is born out of love and care. So perhaps a little less condemnation, and a little more constructive advice, please.
As a caring parent it is only natural that he feels protective towards his son, and wants to prevent him from doing something �he thinks� he may later regret. The threat is heavy handed and misguided yes, but is born out of love and care. So perhaps a little less condemnation, and a little more constructive advice, please.
as the majority of these posts think he is being unreasonable then we are not going to change our mind just because you say go easy. As I said I agreed that name calling is a bit too much but most of us have been nice and just given our opinion like he asked. But he already knows what he wants to hear so why ask.
I think the punishment doesn't fit the 'crime'. Throwing him is very extreme for having a tattoo!!!
Plus have you considered that kicking him out might hurt you more then it hurts him? He's got his whole life ahead of him - are you prepared to miss out on grandchildren, etc, if this action causes a rift between you?
Plus have you considered that kicking him out might hurt you more then it hurts him? He's got his whole life ahead of him - are you prepared to miss out on grandchildren, etc, if this action causes a rift between you?
