bloaterbum, What makes you think "Half of us dont know what sh!t is"? Speaking for myself,I know what going thro' sh!t is like. Like many other's I became a single mum after 12 years of marriage to an unfaithful man. I was left with 2 toddler's to bring up,debts to pay plus a mortgage and prior to this I'd lost a baby. I also had to pay off debts that my ex had incurred in my name and even sell some of my furniture. I lost both my parent's within 18 months of each other ,my lovely Dad had Alzeimer's and we watched him go from a proper "Man's man" to a child whilst ,my dear Mother had stomach cancer and to see her suffering was heartbreaking. I've had 2 cancer scares but Thank God all turned out ok. My now hubby of almost 25 years was in a coma folloing a RTA which was not his fault but again, Thank God he came out of it. I lost my dear cousin to cancer just 4 months ago and just last sunday her hubby followed her. They were both 59 and are sorely missed by all. Im sure other's here have been thro' some heavy sh!t in their lives too so please dont pass remarks about us,we just trying to help as are you.