Why can't I keep a relationship going?

[yoshimoto]

I had up until last week a great girlfriend, but something inside me just decide to self destruct and call it al off for no reason at all.
This is not the first time I have done this, why would I be doing it? I am 30 now and do want to settle down. I thought this latest girl was the one, but then I go and do this ��.

Any advice?

[ummmm]

Tell her you are very sorry and ask for a 2nd chance

[curlyfilm]

are you really ready or want to settle.......

[Amiira]

Do you fear getting dumped, so do it first so avoid getting hurt yourself???

[sair5412]

Maybe subconciously you are scared of commitment or worried that she may finish with you so you do it first? If you love her and think she's the one, do as Ummm says and tell her your sorry. If you are scared she may finish with you one day then you have to take that risk because you have to take risks for good things to happen. Good luck. xx

[yoshimoto]

i think you guys are right, i am very scared that i will get dumped first as it has happened to me so many times in the past and i have been very hurt because of it.

[Amiira]

I think I deserve 3 stars for my spot on observation there Yoshimoto

[Amiira]

Seriously. You cant go through life being like this yoshimoto. If you really liked your girlfriend, like ummmm says, apologise and maybe you can get back together again.

[ummmm]

Don't forget the flowers, card and box of chocolates, and a nice note to point out all her good points and let her know your fears....she will love you more for it.

[4getmenot]

you sound exactly like my ex, go it alone for a while, you sound as if you need to sort yourself before you even think of a girlfriend.

[jno]

4get is right. Have you considered getting therapy? What you're doing is sort of an equivalent to self-harm - not physically, but you're going to diminish your life if you can't sort out why you're doing what you're doing and find some way to reprogramme yourself.