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Asperger Syndrome
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Not a question,this is for Zorro. To determine if a person has this condition he/she needs to be assessed by a physcologist over a 6 week period following a referral from a gp or school if the person is of school age. The assessment will show up if the person had A/S and if so,is high,medium or low functioning. Nobody can self diagnose as certain test's need to be undertaken. My son is High Functioning,thank God. If you're concerned Zorro see you gp and ask for an assessment. I'll overlook your foul remark's to me from last night.
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I meet birds every week, but serious relationships seem beyond me. Its never my fault they dont work. And its traumatic meeting new people, so its a neverending problem.
Women would probably have to know me a long time before we got together to understand me properly for it to work.
I probably just come across as a womaniser on here, when its a serious relationship I want.
And I apologise again for my outburst last night. Its not easy admitting you have effectively a disability, especially the nature of this one, when its hard to reveal your innerself to people due to the disabilty itself...irony of it. So I was angry that you thought I was taking the mick...when i know all too well how difficult the condition is.
Women would probably have to know me a long time before we got together to understand me properly for it to work.
I probably just come across as a womaniser on here, when its a serious relationship I want.
And I apologise again for my outburst last night. Its not easy admitting you have effectively a disability, especially the nature of this one, when its hard to reveal your innerself to people due to the disabilty itself...irony of it. So I was angry that you thought I was taking the mick...when i know all too well how difficult the condition is.
If anything Zorro , you come across as quite intriguing because you are often a man of very few words. I think that that is quite an endearing quality - it's the men with too much too say that you have to worry about. I have always been attracted to men who seem a bit more aloof and quite shy and a lot of my friends feel the same way so don't despair because the right woman is out there for you somewhere. Just be yourself and be proud to be yourself and you'll know when you find that special someone x
So Zorro , you tell them when their bum DOES look big in this ? There's such a thing as being TOO honest :o)
Seriously though , relationships are only an extension of that first meeting. You just obviously haven't met the right person yet. Could it be down to where you are meeting them ? If it's in a pub/club , you're not likely to find the love of your life in a cattle market. As I said , just keep being yourself and you'll find the right one. You don't seem to have a problem charming the ladies on AB so just apply that to your own life. Relax , let the conversation flow and just take things as they come.
Seriously though , relationships are only an extension of that first meeting. You just obviously haven't met the right person yet. Could it be down to where you are meeting them ? If it's in a pub/club , you're not likely to find the love of your life in a cattle market. As I said , just keep being yourself and you'll find the right one. You don't seem to have a problem charming the ladies on AB so just apply that to your own life. Relax , let the conversation flow and just take things as they come.
Sorry Ladies and Gents, i'd like to add a little here, Aspergers, as you all probably know, is a branch of Autism, of which there are many, many, different types,
loulou. my daughter was twelve before she was diagnosed with Autism, it gets tiring, but keep fighting, you need to get a refferal to the 'Woolfson Centre', which is not far from Great Ormond Street Hospital' in London.
zorro, the 'Experts' say that everyone is Autistic to a degree, so if you think you might have Aspergers, its possible that you may be right, but you need to be seen and diagnosed before you can say thats what you are.
loulou. my daughter was twelve before she was diagnosed with Autism, it gets tiring, but keep fighting, you need to get a refferal to the 'Woolfson Centre', which is not far from Great Ormond Street Hospital' in London.
zorro, the 'Experts' say that everyone is Autistic to a degree, so if you think you might have Aspergers, its possible that you may be right, but you need to be seen and diagnosed before you can say thats what you are.
You are right there, Lonnie.
There are more high functioning aspies out there than people think!
caz ~ I am amazed by you. Honestly. I know you are full time carers (I understand your boys are low functioning ~ or autistic?) we have had various problems with my high functioning aspie daughter but not to the scale you have. You can only be admired for your strength...I do hope that eventually your housing situation is resolved to your advantage :o)
It's interesting to hear that battersbys son was still in nappies 'late'. My daughter wasn't that late with hers..although still later than others! however her speech was very delayed. She did see several speech therapists, and didn't speak until she was 3 years 5 months (yes, I wrote the date down!) but when she did speak it was a perfectly formed sentence. There was never any 'baby' language.
It is my understanding that Aspergers in particular presents itself in many ways ~ the functioning varies from person to person and not all symptoms are suffered by all. I remember my daughter being described by her special needs teacher as 'an enigma'. In fact that was her nickname we used for a while, and she now uses it on the internet :o)
There are more high functioning aspies out there than people think!
caz ~ I am amazed by you. Honestly. I know you are full time carers (I understand your boys are low functioning ~ or autistic?) we have had various problems with my high functioning aspie daughter but not to the scale you have. You can only be admired for your strength...I do hope that eventually your housing situation is resolved to your advantage :o)
It's interesting to hear that battersbys son was still in nappies 'late'. My daughter wasn't that late with hers..although still later than others! however her speech was very delayed. She did see several speech therapists, and didn't speak until she was 3 years 5 months (yes, I wrote the date down!) but when she did speak it was a perfectly formed sentence. There was never any 'baby' language.
It is my understanding that Aspergers in particular presents itself in many ways ~ the functioning varies from person to person and not all symptoms are suffered by all. I remember my daughter being described by her special needs teacher as 'an enigma'. In fact that was her nickname we used for a while, and she now uses it on the internet :o)
Well great choice for a name pippa - not to be confused with the blondes you understand. Let's just hope that she doesn't use AB then because that would really get confusing :o)
I'm watching this thread with great interest because I have often wondered if this is the case with my eldest daughter. Her previous school sent her to speech and language and tested her for various things but all they identified was a problem with gross motor skills. She is very intelligent but struggles in certain social situations and avoids eye contact. This could be shyness but she's really clumsy too. She has broken her wrist , tripped down the stairs and falls over her own feet. I have also been told that she has a problem following sequences so she struggles with dance classes and anything requiring a certain order in class eg being told do this , this , this and this. She remembers what to do but struggles with what order it should be in. Should I be worried or do you think that this is something which she will grow out of ?
I'm watching this thread with great interest because I have often wondered if this is the case with my eldest daughter. Her previous school sent her to speech and language and tested her for various things but all they identified was a problem with gross motor skills. She is very intelligent but struggles in certain social situations and avoids eye contact. This could be shyness but she's really clumsy too. She has broken her wrist , tripped down the stairs and falls over her own feet. I have also been told that she has a problem following sequences so she struggles with dance classes and anything requiring a certain order in class eg being told do this , this , this and this. She remembers what to do but struggles with what order it should be in. Should I be worried or do you think that this is something which she will grow out of ?
No probs enigma ~ it is one of my favourite words!
Your daughter..how old is she? she is showing a few signs, I must say but as the others will testify it is all very complex...my first port of call was my GP, who in fact was far more helpful than I was told to expect.
Another of my daughters symptoms is the way she walks. Have you seen 'Rain Man'? she walks just like Dustin Hoffman in that film...very stiff. She also has a slightly robotic way of speaking, and struggles with putting expression in her voice, although she does try ~ bless her! I also relate to the clumsiness issue.
Your daughter..how old is she? she is showing a few signs, I must say but as the others will testify it is all very complex...my first port of call was my GP, who in fact was far more helpful than I was told to expect.
Another of my daughters symptoms is the way she walks. Have you seen 'Rain Man'? she walks just like Dustin Hoffman in that film...very stiff. She also has a slightly robotic way of speaking, and struggles with putting expression in her voice, although she does try ~ bless her! I also relate to the clumsiness issue.
Hi Pippa and Frilly. My daughter is nine and to be honest , has worried me since her early routine checks with my health visitor. Her speech was always very good and she functioned as well as any child her age , in fact she was quite bright even at an early age. However , when she went for a routine check with my health visitor , she didn't seem to perform very well. I worried about her hearing because she didn't seem to hear certain tones and pitches but she may just have been tired that day because she performed better the second time she tried. She wasn't very adept at building towers from building blocks though in the order she was asked to put them in and although my health visitor told me that there was nothing to worry about , quite naturally I did.
She was well liked at nursery but seemed to enjoy being on her own and often toddled about playing on her own and seemed uncomfortable joining in group activities. When she started primary one , her teacher immediately highlighted areas of concern , saying that she was quite withdrawn and although well liked by her peers , was reluctant to join in and looked like she wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. My hubby and I put this down to shyness because we were both very shy as children but my daughter's head teacher kept niggling away at us , stating that she thought that it was a confidence issue , even asking us if everything was okay at home to which we were affronted and really livid. Our daughter is well loved and we have shown nothing but patience and understanding so I was annoyed by that.
Oddly enough though , she used to do bizarre things like stand up on a wall whilst waiting for a bus and say "Welcome to my show" and then start singing and dancing. Put her in group situations though and she turns to jelly.
She was well liked at nursery but seemed to enjoy being on her own and often toddled about playing on her own and seemed uncomfortable joining in group activities. When she started primary one , her teacher immediately highlighted areas of concern , saying that she was quite withdrawn and although well liked by her peers , was reluctant to join in and looked like she wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. My hubby and I put this down to shyness because we were both very shy as children but my daughter's head teacher kept niggling away at us , stating that she thought that it was a confidence issue , even asking us if everything was okay at home to which we were affronted and really livid. Our daughter is well loved and we have shown nothing but patience and understanding so I was annoyed by that.
Oddly enough though , she used to do bizarre things like stand up on a wall whilst waiting for a bus and say "Welcome to my show" and then start singing and dancing. Put her in group situations though and she turns to jelly.
I don't think that she has been tested for Dyspraxia. I do know that they tested her for Dyslexia because she kept muddling her words but she's not Dyslexic. I think that she was also tested for ADHD but i'm not sure. To be honest , her school was as much use as a chocolate teapot. The weaknesses they did identify are as I said : Clumsiness, problem with gross motor skills , lacks co-ordination , problem following sequences and avoids eye contact was on her first report card. Perhaps it's worth a trip to my GP to probe a bit further. It may be something or nothing but best checked out .
My daughter isn't robotic in her speech but sometimes she takes a heck of a long time to get a sentence out , seemingly faltering on a certain word/words which she will keep repeating and I have to be patient and resist the urge to finish her sentence for her.
My daughter isn't robotic in her speech but sometimes she takes a heck of a long time to get a sentence out , seemingly faltering on a certain word/words which she will keep repeating and I have to be patient and resist the urge to finish her sentence for her.
Yes , that's the kind of thing my daughter would do too Zorro. She was only walking out of the school gates and seemed to trip over her own feet but becasue she was carrying her packed lunchbox in her hand and landed awkwardly when she fell , she broke her wrist. After getting the plaster off and being told to be really careful , she tripped coming down the stairs too. She seems to misjudge diatnces and crashes into things and i've lost count of how many things she's tripped over. I've even joked that sh'e like a bruised banana because of the amount of knocks and bumps she takes. My mum and dad will nickname her Calamity Jane but it's got me a bit worried to be honest.
My daughter seems to struggle in getting a sentence out sometimes. Not in the way of a stammer or speech impediment , more that it will begin something like " Mum , did you , did you , did you , did you ........" I don't know if it's just that she's preoccupied with something else but it gets a bit frustrating after a while.
