No sex drive

[curly~sue]

Hello!

I wonder if this is a common problem? For as long as I can remember I have had no or a very poor sex drive. Lately I have been thinking it may be because I am on the pill. It is not like I ever noticed a change in my drive as I've been on the pill since I was 15, could this be the cause do you thnk ? I don't really want to try the contraceptive injection as I like the reassurance my period brings.

The last time I was single, I went for months without any sexual contact and I wasn't bothered one bit. That can't be right can it ? Very occasionally I'll get the odd stirring and I do enjoy sex, but to be frank if someone said I could never have it again I don't think I would care. Does anyone or has anyone ever felt like this ? I don't feel normal! :-(

[nic2006]

whatever - that is the biggest load of rubbish I have read for a while. Each to their opinions but when it is based on nothing it is wiser not to speak

[claireybear]

I too am a sufferer of the pill induced low/no sex drive.

I have been with my man for 4 years and we are getting to the stage where he is very close to finishing with me cos I have no sex drive. I often feign tiredness at night so that I can go up to bed early and be asleep when he comes in. I have no interest in sex of any kind and when we do have sex I have to force myself to show willing.

I am glad others have the same experiences although it won't really help me. I am at the stage where I am going to try counselling to see if I have any scary regessed issues in my past that are blocking my sexual desire!!

[curly~sue]

As you say Skreeceeboy we are all entitled to our opinions but it's not proven that it IS the pill that's causing a low sex drive. I asked if it might be though. I can't see really see a practical alternative to the pill which is what I'm saying. I don't want to try the injection as this can stop your periods altogether and still affects your hormones and I don't react to condoms very well.

As I said before I don't think I'd care if I never had sex again and that's my issue.

Claireybear please let me know how you get on, we sound so alike x

[Skreecheeboy]

And what are your sources for rubbishing my thesis then nic2006? At what stage will you realise that excessive hormones being pumped into your body everday for an excessive period of time might have an affect on you in the longterm? The majority of people on this post has revealed that they have lost their sex drives after taking the pill, it has been well documented that there's an excess of female hormones getting into the water table and as a result of this there are more female fish being born. Other symptoms include indulgance, weight gain, depression, bad moods, mood swings, weight loss, bad skin, etc etc. Excuse me for pointing that out and did you also know that condoms are distributed freely, you could save a fortune on prescriptions and be a lot healthier and safer by following my advice, and what if you miss a pill??? You still get pregnant and it won't stop you getting std's!

[Skreecheeboy]

Sorry curly sue, you can get condoms without spermiside on them for sensitive people. I also think there might be ones that are made out of sugar instead of latex but I'm not sure about that, might be worth giving it a go with some lube to make it a bit nicer for you?

[claireybear]

I have tried the injection curly~sue, but I found I came out in massive yelow headed spots all over my back and a friend told me she had had the same experience!

This problem isn't easy to deal with in a relationship. My boyfriend has tried to be understanding, but now he is getting really frustrated and thinks I am having an affair cos I must be having sex somewhere else, apparantly. He finds it very hard to understand that I just do not have any interest in sex and sometimes even the thought of it leaves me cold. The more me and my boyfriend argue and fall out over it the less likely I am to fancy having sex with him.

Coming off the pill is an option I have considered but I think using condoms would have even more of a dampener on things than there already is. I have varied my pill over the years, to the extent that I am now just on the Progestogen only pill, but nothing seems to have changed.

Skreecheeboy, your theories sound great on paper but as you have never had this problem I do not think you are very qualified to comment. I know that sounds harsh, but you like my boyfriend seem to see it as very black and white, and it is not!!

I know how you are feeling curly~sue, I often feel as if this problem makes me less of a woman, frigid even, and that is not a nice feeling

[nannon]

thanks leelapop - he is good about it really...he doesnt ever really complain i think usually its my guilt that i think of!! x

[leelapops]

Oh claireybear, I know just how you feel. Like you're letting him down if you don't? But you just have no interest? I think it's so much more common than women think. If you aren't interested in sex with your b/f, who the hell does he think you would be interested in having sex with?!

The Pill is convenient, but of course any medication can be a risk. At least I know when my periods are going to come though and so on.

Sometimes I wish I was some kind of rampant p*rn star (!) but at the end of the day I'm me, and no-one can make me change in terms of sex. I guess it involves a little compromise, but never to the point where you don't feel comfortable

x

[curly~sue]

claireybear what you posted has made me cry. You all have. I don't feel so alone and abnormal anymore. Thank you.

It's eerily similar the way we feel and my partner also takes it personally in that way. Maybe I ought to show him this thread, not that it would help I don't think. I don't want to hurt him, but equally I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life- dreading sex but feeling I should. I hope you are all well and thanks again.