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[tallulagalx]

Hi

Yesterday my husband said I could use his mobile to call my friend... he has lots of unused minutes.

Whilst on the phone I noticed a couple of missed calls from his voice mail from a number I did not recognise.

Being the nosey parker i am I wrote the number down. Later last night I called this other mobile number and it went straight to my husbands voice mail.

I have not been able to sleep, I am really worried he either has another phone on divert or another sim card.

Which then leads me to think there maybe someone else.

Please do not shout at me about looking thru his phone.. I know it was naughty and I regret it.

we have been married 15 years and despite a couple of blips earlier in our relationship, I thought things were good.

Can any of you give me some clue as to what to do now??

Thanks very much
Tally

[Goodsoulette]

lots of missed calls from his voicemail. That would be from his voicemail. The number that calls me to tell me I have voicemail messages i9s my voicemail number is I were to call it it would reach my voicemail.

[4gottenabout]

good point goodsoul

[tallulagalx]

Hi Goodsoulette

The 3 digit voicemail number that is standard for his network was followed by this mysterious number...

my voicemail is just 3 digits and has no other number attached to it.

I have called this number which is a full mobile number and it seems to divert to my husbands number..

this is my worry... why would he have this divert in place...

I really think he is seeing someone, my imagination is running wild and I feel sick thinking about it.

Thanks xx

Tally

[4gottenabout]

what is making you doubt him so much?

[CheekyChops]

Like Goodsoulette says, if I get a missed call from my voicemail, it comes up as a proper mobile number which is nothing like my phone number. I ring it back, its goes to my voicemail.

Unless you have other reason to doubt him, I really do think you are worrying over nothing!!

[Goodsoulette]

Peronally I still think its just his voicemail. Thats what mine does and you are gonna open up a can of mistrust if you are wrong.

[tallulagalx]

I dont know forget, I thought things were good.
We did have a rough patch a couple of years ago, when he admitted he was unfaithful...

I was also not so saintly a few years ago,.... but I thought things were good now

We have worked hard at our relationship, I love him deeply and assumed he feels the same... but now I am worried.

I just do not know....

[4gottenabout]

I think its his voicemail and you are just feeling a bit insecure.

[Kleiber]

If he was messing you about & trying to keep it secret, why did he let you use his phone in the first place? I shouldn't worry, if I were you - like the others said, it's probably just a voicemail number. Just a thought - it's not an old mobile number he just hasn't got rid of yet, is it?

[tiggertan]

Why not phone the network, ie: Orange, and ask if it a mobile number or a voicemail one? Obviously they won't give you subscriber details but should tell you that. Or simply ask him. If you are in a happy relationship and he has nothing to hide then he shouldn't mind. Apologise for going through his phone or say you knocked a button and this number showed up on the screen....

[Kleiber]

Hi, tally - how'd you get on?

[fatjax]

well you don't trust him so separate.