lapdancing clubs

[liquidspace]

My partner is going on a stag weekend to Bournemouth. I On both nights he is going to lapdancing clubs. This doesn't sit well with me and I think most of those clubs are totally naked now. I can't help not liking the thought of him sitting there while naked girls gyrate around him. I have told him I am not happy about it but he says that as he wants to go he will, regardless of my feelings.

Are the women right with me on this one?

[China Doll]

Also, not being able to afford to live on your own. Where there's a will there's a way... Trust me. I've done it five times so far, there is nearly always a way... sometimes you just have to be creative ;0)

Good luck.

[baileybird]

if you believe that your husband only thinks of you when you have sex you are deluded!!!!!

let him go and enjoy himself- e grown up about it he will think more of you than you kicking up and making him look stupid when he is the only one not 'allowed' to go.

Dont make him look an idiot - they can do that on their own

[jno]

it may be one of the reasons he is so dismissive of your feelings is that he is financially in debt to you; it makes him feel trapped. This is not an excuse. But I don't think money should force you to stay with this guy; this sounds like a non-relationship. His liability to repay you won't come to an end if you leave.

[liquidspace]

Thanks jno. Yes he has told me he feels trapped, guess I should try and up my self respect and make a stand and leave, it just scares me to be honest. I know I should go as he clearly doesnt have many feelings left for me, I am sad so much of the time.

[jno]

breaking up is hard to do (in fact I think that was a song title) but sometimes for the sake of your self-respect - which is generally more important than money - it's the best thing to do. Trying to get some written acknowledgment of the debt would not be a bad idea. Good luck