the girlfriend doesnt like flowers

[filthiestfis]

Yesterday I had a bunch of roses delivered to my girlfriend's house, which was a surprise for her. She said that nobody had ever given her flowers before and thanked me. Later on in the day she admitted that she wasnt a flowers kind of person and that she would give a rose from the bunch to each of her friends.
I didnt react when she told me, I just pondered about it. I am wondering if I should feel mad that shes giving away my gift to her friends, that she sounds unappreciative, or is it ok for her to do whatever she feels like with the bunch because they belong to her? Put it this way, if she dumped the flowers in the bin, am I entitled to get angry about it even though they were a gift from me and therefore are in her possession?
Im not going to say anything to her but it does make me wonder how others would react in my position. Your thoughts please?

[whiskeysheri]

LMAO! Don't worry, max I'm getting there with him. He's almost at the stage where I can take him out in public. :o)

[filthiestfis]

Been with her a year, and shes 21. Not the first time I've spotted her rudeness. Thinking of dumping her. Is her rudeness enough justification? I dont know.

[LoftyLottie]

If you are thinking of dumping her then something is wrong and then, yes, her rudeness would be enough to prompt you into a decision.In my experience you can't change people. She may mellow, but I wouldn't chance it.

It has obviously affected you, and I am not at all surprised.

[andrea81]

I think if you're honest then I would say that you have issues with her. If she's being like this with you, maybe she feels the same too!

When me and my hubby were dating , he used to buy me ornaments. I hate ornaments, but I accepted them because I loved him and even loved the ornements because HE gave them to me!

[toby99]

Her rudeness is definately justification, as she completely dismissed your gift and indeed you. She obviously takes you for granted. Apart from the sentiment, what about the cost involved. If she can't appreciate YOU and your thoughtfulness then she should at least have some tact due to the cost of sending flowers on V day. In my opinion she doesn't deserve you or your time, but I can only go by what I have read and this one incident, I do not know how the past year has been and I wouldn't like to insfluence something that you may later regret. Maybe you need to talk to her, tell her how you feel and see what she says. Maybe she feels it is 'cool' to act like this - there is alot of pressure on young people today.

[mrs_overall]

What a rude thing for your girlfriend to do. You are entitled to feel angry and hurt. She sounds very immature.
I've had some horrid gifts over the years but I accept them with thanks - it's the polite thing to do.

[Octavius]

Oh give over. What does it matter? They were a gift from you and she recognises that. Maybe you should have known flowers weren�t her thing. Better they be shared amongst friends than rot away in a vase uncared for in their short life. At least then your girlfriends friends will see what a gentleman you are.

I gave my wife a large box of chocolates, amongst other things. If she didn�t share them about I would be quite concerned.

It all seems a little petty to me. If you feel that affronted and cheated, dump her.

[LoftyLottie]

Still think it is very insensitive and rude. I have never heard of anyone sharing flowers out - chocolates are a completely different matter. Certainly don't think it's petty to filthiestfis. If both parties were as blase as each other then that would be different.

[toby99]

Octavus - I don't believe this is petty - this maybe a true indication of what she is like - spoilt, ungrateful and tactless and maybe he does need to dump her a meet someone else who will appreciate him. You may not put much importance on her actions, but most on here have. It doesn't seem to me that she has recognised that "it was a gift from him" she has just ungratefully dismissed the whole thing - not worthy in my opinion and it may put him off from doing this in the future and that would be a shame

[Octavius]

Well if this is such a large issue that it is a relationship breaker, then maybe she should be dumped.

There are bigger things to 'fret' about in long term commitment in my opinion, so if a bunch of roses causes such grief then the relationship should be nipped in the bud, so to speak.

[LoftyLottie]

Nothing to do with the nature of the gift, Octavious, whether it be a diamond ring, a bunch of roses or a chocolate bar! It is her whole attitude towards a gift from someone she is close to and whose feelings she should respect and be sensitive to - and that, to me, is a very BIG issue.

[LoftyLottie]

Sorry Octavius (without an 'o')

[filthiestfis]

I understand what Octavius is saying. It seems like Im making a big deal out of a little thing. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, recently one big downward spiral, until about a week ago when we kinda sorted things out, but I dont think its looking good.

[Chattirbank]

your girlfriend was unappreciative and disrespectful to you. she sounds like a gold digger and was setting you up to give her jewelry in future. i would dump the sob.

[Octavius]

Well that was my point LiftyLootie. It seems she is probably an insensitive wotsit � we all can be sometimes � but only the issue over a bunch of flowers made them notice this, after a whole year. So in isolation it is petty, but as I have said, if this has caused all the hidden feelings to surface to utter contempt, then she should be sent off to tiptoe through the tulips alone.

[LoftyLottie]

That was sort of my point in my posting third post down on this page when I said 'something is wrong', i.e. it is not this issue alone, Octopious.

LiftyLootie!

[Octavius]

Yes LeftaLottie my point was about the point that you pointed out earlier, after I had already made the point. And this had nothing to do with poinsettias.

Its all rather like a broken pencil in the end: pointless

[LoftyLottie]

OK you win Oct.... Octa.....Octav................ can't think of any suitable names!!

[Panic Button]

It's normally the women who accuse the men of being unromantic!