the girlfriend doesnt like flowers

[filthiestfis]

Yesterday I had a bunch of roses delivered to my girlfriend's house, which was a surprise for her. She said that nobody had ever given her flowers before and thanked me. Later on in the day she admitted that she wasnt a flowers kind of person and that she would give a rose from the bunch to each of her friends.
I didnt react when she told me, I just pondered about it. I am wondering if I should feel mad that shes giving away my gift to her friends, that she sounds unappreciative, or is it ok for her to do whatever she feels like with the bunch because they belong to her? Put it this way, if she dumped the flowers in the bin, am I entitled to get angry about it even though they were a gift from me and therefore are in her possession?
Im not going to say anything to her but it does make me wonder how others would react in my position. Your thoughts please?

[redcrx]

awww thats sad. I can understand why she may want to share them with friends who would appreciate themmore than her BUT you sent them with a thought and feelings attached so she should keep them and enjoy them for that sentiment.

Id be rather annoyed if i gave anyone anything which they then told me they were giving away. Id rather take it back lol

[4getmenot]

Thats a bit off isnt it. Dont worry a person I know got flowers and said they wernt up to scratch got her bloke to send them back and get another bunch!!

[filthiestfis]

Its not that she doesnt like flowers, its that she cant be bothered with them.

[mirela]

i received flower yesterday, it is sweet, but i'd prefer some sweet words and acompany for the v day, but nothing!!!! roses could lose their meaning if giving flower only something u have to do at v day for ur gf.

[joannie10]

that is really rude of her. Fair enough she could maybe advise you in future that flowers are a bit wasted on her and not to throw away your money but I think you should let it be known that you are disappointed in what she is doing!

[Beanmistriss]

I think she's being really rude. Even if she really dislikes them, they'll die in a week so she could just put up with them for that long. It doesn't say much for what she thinks of your feelings does it.

[whiskeysheri]

I don't agree with her giving them away, so I'd probably not be best pleased, but at least she's been honest in telling you that they aren't really her "thing"; saves you having to waste your money in the future! :o)

I bought my boyfriend a present that he'd wanted for ages once. The next day he sold it to his mate for a "profit". The cons of going out with a tight-arse, I guess. Although, I wasn't so understanding at the time.

Hope you had a nice Valentin's together, anyway.

[toby99]

Dare I say that I am not suprised that noone has given her flowers before? Maybe they see something you don't yet, but only you can answer that. I think it is very rude regardless of her reasons, but that is only my view and I don't know the whole picture. If you had wanted to buy her friends a rose each you would have. What a waste of money and they don't come cheap at this time of year. I personally would tell her how you feel as she needs to know. Most of us know what is right and wrong and you have been very thoughtful. Please don't think all women would be like that - there are many appreciative ladies out there that would have been over joyed!

[LoftyLottie]

Perhaps I am too soft, but I have never ever told anyone that I don't like their gifts to me. I have even had the most dreadful ornaments on display or worn jewellery I don't like rather than hurt someone. I can't even give away gifts.

I think your girlfriend should be very grateful you gave her flowers and kept her mouth shut. She is lucky - I didn't get any :o(

[toby99]

Loftylottie - you are not too soft, you are just polite, well mannered and appreciative! I too would never be so rude when there was definately no reason to be.

[LoftyLottie]

My mother, without fail, would tell my father that she didn't like things he brought her and then go back to the shop and change them, Toby. I used to feel so upset for him!

[filthiestfis]

Thanks for all your thoughts. Keep them coming. Im thinking about what you are all saying because her bluntness is playing on my mind.

[weeal]

aww sounds a wee bit ungrateful, she might at least have just kept quiet yesterday as it was so nice of you, but maybe told you another time that she's not too keen on flowers generally
to give them away isnt that nice
wonder what her pals will think of the 'token' flower she will give them

[andrea81]

I think you're right to feel upset, thats not something she should be doing even if she's not a 'flower' person. she should accept them as they were intended.

Maybe she's just like that though and doesn't even realise she's upset you.

[wildchild]

I actually posted on here yesterday because I thought I was not going to get any thing, so when my hubby came home with a bunch on flowers I was well chuffed! I could think of other things I would like before flowers, but the point is you made an effort and thought about her! I think she is being ungrateful, there are plenty of people who have no-one to have someone who loves them on valentines day, and like others have say, she could of told you some other time she didn't like flowers.

[maximo]

I agree with what people have said here, that was a bit crass....
She should have been grateful to receive flowers, even if they're not her "thing", as you put thought into it. If only out of politeness, she shouldn't have said anything, and giving them away is even worse! Maybe it was just a thoughtless moment and she will regret doing this, but she seems very ungrateful to me. It's not like it's something so expensive that she would have to really like it, and could politely say that she would like to have another model or something as she finds that it is such a big present she would like to have it fully to her taste so she can use it everyday (a piece of jewelery, for example). It was flowers, and a lovely gesture. I'd be gutted if that happened to me, and you're right to be miffed.

PS: Whiskeyshery, what an unbelievale d!ck that boyfriend of yours was!!! lol

[whiskeysheri]

LMAO! max, he still is my boyfriend! You're right,. though, it was definitely a dumping worthy offence, so he should count his lucky stars. Anyway, it gets me out of having to buy him anything else in case he flogs it. :o))

[maximo]

Oooooopsss.....*open mouth, insert foot*


Bet he's lovely now and you've trained him well!

[toby99]

I am not suprised "her bluntness is playing on your mind" It would on mine too. She hasn't just dismissed your gift, but she has also dismissed your thoughtful gesture at such a romantic time. As previously noted, this wasn't a gift she had to keep for ages, they would have been thrown out in a few days. I would definately tell her how you feel and that she is extremely ungrateful and I certainly wouldn't bother again - how long have your been with her and if you dont mind saying, how old is she?