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Unhealthy girlfriend.
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My gf and I are both 25 and a year into the relationship. Thing is I love her very much and think she has a great character - but physical attraction is important to me, my girlfriend HATES the gym, doesnt like exercising, wont ever wanna go on a run, and 'is too tired after work to cook healthily' always finding excuses.
How can I get her to start trimming down and looking slimmer without being offensive?
Please, i dont want any replies saying 'you should love her how she is, whatever her size....'
How can I get her to start trimming down and looking slimmer without being offensive?
Please, i dont want any replies saying 'you should love her how she is, whatever her size....'
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why do you think im that sara, or are you generally abusive?
Im forever cooking really healthy stuff for her so she doesnt get dips in energy that she currently gets, and isnt constantly knackered.
Like I said, shes just being unhealthy and thats never EVER good. The fact that she is 25 and seemingly has given up trying to look good for herself, when currently she is complaining about looking fat and feeling tired all the time, really worries me.
Your abuse is unhelpful Sara
Im forever cooking really healthy stuff for her so she doesnt get dips in energy that she currently gets, and isnt constantly knackered.
Like I said, shes just being unhealthy and thats never EVER good. The fact that she is 25 and seemingly has given up trying to look good for herself, when currently she is complaining about looking fat and feeling tired all the time, really worries me.
Your abuse is unhelpful Sara
Ok little bit more constructive here, why don't you cook for her? When she sees how easy it is to cook healthily and how good it tastes she may be more encouraged to do so herself.
As for the exercise part, you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. Not everyone is going to get off their butt and use the gym if they don't feel they need to, or don't have time to or want to. How about you get up and go for a run yourself early in the mornings and she may just start to wonder what all the fuss is about one day and come with you?
I can't really talk from experience as I go to the gym everyday but my boyfriend doesn't and I don't feel the need to pressure him into anything, it's up to him what he does or doesn't do, it's his body and his life afterall!
As for the exercise part, you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. Not everyone is going to get off their butt and use the gym if they don't feel they need to, or don't have time to or want to. How about you get up and go for a run yourself early in the mornings and she may just start to wonder what all the fuss is about one day and come with you?
I can't really talk from experience as I go to the gym everyday but my boyfriend doesn't and I don't feel the need to pressure him into anything, it's up to him what he does or doesn't do, it's his body and his life afterall!
Maybe Im not explaining correctly, i try and cook healthily for her and I care about her massively. So i am trying to be a positive influence.
I'll give you an example, shes always wanted to be a photographer, we saved up and gone a camera, but on a recent 'experience break' she had to stop after half an hour of walking about taking photos with a professional photographer cos she was knackered 'with all that walking'..
I'll give you an example, shes always wanted to be a photographer, we saved up and gone a camera, but on a recent 'experience break' she had to stop after half an hour of walking about taking photos with a professional photographer cos she was knackered 'with all that walking'..
Dude, no one is giving abuse.....
With regards to your lass, you say you love her and are "in it for the long haul", but, one year into the relationship, you are finding faults with her.
Yeah, so she complains she looks fat (as most women do....sorry, girls!) and is tired - does she have a stressful job?
Are there other things bothering her, which could lead to tiredness, depression, etc?
Just because you like to exercise or cook healthy, doesnt mean everyone should - i dont, for a start.
After working eight or nine hours of the day, the last thing i want to do is go out running in the frickin cold!!
Why not sit the lass down and have a chat?
Maybe you'll get the answers you want and save from getting the "abuse" you've been inundated with on here!
With regards to your lass, you say you love her and are "in it for the long haul", but, one year into the relationship, you are finding faults with her.
Yeah, so she complains she looks fat (as most women do....sorry, girls!) and is tired - does she have a stressful job?
Are there other things bothering her, which could lead to tiredness, depression, etc?
Just because you like to exercise or cook healthy, doesnt mean everyone should - i dont, for a start.
After working eight or nine hours of the day, the last thing i want to do is go out running in the frickin cold!!
Why not sit the lass down and have a chat?
Maybe you'll get the answers you want and save from getting the "abuse" you've been inundated with on here!
