Peoples Reactions?

[poodicat]

As most know,myself and others look after 8 guys,had to take one of my guys to the hospital to get measured for splints,and she can vocalise,i can understand children staring and making comments,but not adults surely?,i am very protective of my guys and for two pennies would say something but i cant!

[4getmenot]

do you mean your guys are disabled in some way poodi? are you a carer?

[poodicat]

Yes forget,i am a senior support worker,all of our guys are in wheelchairs,and have issues

[redcrx]

adults making comments should be ashamed. As for staring, well, thats just human nature to look, but they should be able to control themselves.

[cazzz1975]

people are strange, look at some of the abuse that happens on here, very hurtful personal comments made..why??


I have disabled kids and we get our fair share of "gorkers" and experts.

[4getmenot]

I sometimes look other way, I would normally smile at people when I walk past but you never know what people are thinking. There was a disabled boy out in town the other week with his carer and I accidently bumped into him in Boots and smiled and said sorry. Then when I got to Morrisons he was in there too trying to carry a very heavy basket, but I think his carer was showing him how to shop. Anyway you know how when you say hello to someone at start of shop you then pass them in every aisle, well I did just that so in every aisle I smiled at him, on the last bit I passed him again and gave him a smile and he turned round and shouted at top of voice F&* k off!! lol

[poodicat]

My lady doesnt speak as such,she vocalises the same song and makes noises

[ethandron]

it's human nature. i too used to work with adults with learning difficulties and we went out into the community as often as possible. some people just don't know how to react or what to say, it doesn't mean they're being deliberately rude or offensive, in fact the vast majority of people are very kind and considerate towards folk like that. i found it was good not to be overly sensitive about people looking, but just to smile and carry on with what we were doing. some people are also a little afraid, particularly if a person is making a loud or funny noise. if you're a carer or work with these folk and are very familiar with all their vocalisations and mannerisms, it's easy to forget that not everyone is.
in my experience i would say 99.9% of ordinarly people are fine, but as with anything a little different, you'll always get the odd one who reacts inapproprately, and they're the ones not worth getting worked up about, ignore them.

[poodicat]

Thanks ethan

[boxtops]

I find that people are often afraid of the different - I admire the work you do, poodi, not everyone has the patience and determination.

[poodicat]

Hi box,i ever never worked in this field before,i was awakened to peoples perceptions of care in the community,i love my guys and will always protect them,what hurts me sometimes comments that have been passed on this site towards me,but i know the majority support the work that me and others do!

[karenmac60]

When it's noises Poodi, sometimes people are just looking to see where it's coming from etc - it's a natural human reaction. A few months ago there was a female or a child screaming outside my work. It went on for ages and people were getting quite concerned, but when I went out to see it turned out to be a young woman with learning difficulties having a tantrum. I had a quick look, figured out what was going on and went back inside to reassure people. But the girl's carer glared at me - presumably for being a 'gawker'. I didn't know the situation till I had a look, but if it had been a child being attacked and I hadn't gone to look, what would that make me?

[poodicat]

My lady is nearly 50 not a young girl

[saxy_jag]

Poodicat, I used to do a similar job to yours, with some equally 'eccentric' clients. I remember once taking one chap to the local market. Bless him, he was blind and almost totally deaf and, with no language, 'vocalising', as you call it, was his only way of expressing anything at all. With the breeze on his skin and all the shouting going on, he let rip with a sound reminiscent of a Mohican war cry. One stall-holder began to mimic him, and not kindly either. As we walked away, a woman came up us and said "people like him should never be allowed out in public." I was about to round on her and give her a piece of my mind when she continued, "yes, and I'm going to report him to the market inspector too - he'll never trade here again if I have anything to do with it." She meant, of course, the trader. She went on to tell us how much she appreciates what carers of these guys do and how it was a crying shame that there were still people in the world who couldn't accept their right to be out in public as much as the next man.

Actually, we never saw that trader again, so I think she must have reported him.

As for me, well, if I look at you and your guys when you're out, please know that it's not out of rudeness. I just appreciate what you're doing and I'll be the first to offer you a hand if anyone has a go at you. So keep going, hon. You're all welcome in our library anytime.

[poodicat]

Thanks saxy,got teary with ure words

[Dris]

What comments regarding your job have been passed to you on this site?
I cant think that anyone would have a pop at anyone who cares for anyone in any job.

Re your thread -I agree that the majority of people would be kind towards the lady you care for.Your job is much more common because of care in the community so I would expect that most people and children would be used to seeing people being cared for.Not a bad thing -have to say that no-one bats an eyelid in Tescos when thers a squad doing shopping its as common as me doing my shopping there.

[poodicat]

Arnie its better than saying service users

[poodicat]

Dris a regular on here said that that she wouldnt want me washing her grandfathers nether regions, enough said

[karenmac60]

Yes but Poodi, I didn't know that till I looked. What I meant is that sometimes people will look because they are unsure of what the noise is. I know there are a lot of rude people out there too, but when you hear a noise and are not sure what it is, your automatic reaction is to look - it doesn't necessarily make you a gawker.

[Dris]

I thought you would have been trained to deal with situations such as that anyway poodi -it really should be water off the ducks back.You had me confused with guy and lady as well -can you not just call her a lady rather that a guy? That in itself is a bit patronising toward your service provider surely- not getting the gender correct.
If anyone said that i wonder what provoked it...........