Friends with an Ex

[EvianBaby]

Can you ever really be friends with an Ex?

[whiskeysheri]

One ex, yes, the other, not on your nelly. There's definitely conditions.

[starone]

Who'se ex - yours or your current boy-friend? I would say a definite NO to either now I think about it. How can you possibly talk to them without wondering what they are doing or who they did it with? Not a good basis for friendship.

[EvianBaby]

Lol, some of those have made me laugh.

My ex Starbuck. I'd like to try although I do agree it's hard not to think about what and who they are up to with now.

[Bobbisox]

made me laugh too Evian, till I had to explain myself and what I said :-(

[EvianBaby]

Well I hope it goes without saying that your explanation wasn't one that made me laugh. Although I'm not sure why you'd want to be friends with someone like that.

[Bobbisox]

friends No! not at all Evian, but 24 + years have passed and I am 'polite' to him for 'our ' daughters sake, the last time I saw him was 16 yrs ago when he gave her away at her wedding, I was able to hold my head high on the arm of my new husband, look very happy as I did, so that was good enough for me :-)

[EvianBaby]

Aahh, then that is far more understandable then being friends with him. I think you have the upper hand.

[Bobbisox]

I most certainly have now Evian, he has been married and divorced again, I am the type of person who wont waste energy hating anyone or wanting revenge, it's not in my nature so I am happy to move forward and not to look back :-)

[EvianBaby]

Couple of months Trigger. And as if by magic he's just asked to meet me over the weekend. As friends.

[sara3]

I'll just throw a spanner in the works! it's never worked for me. relationships usually end and one person is more hurt than the other, and there is no room for friendship after that.

I tolerate the ex-husband for the kids' sakes. I have a couple of short-term exes on my FB friends list (who's gone to look??!) but I rarely see them in the real world now.

[EvianBaby]

That's a good point Sara. I've a few ex's from short term things on facebook but I very rarely speak to them, maybe just to wish a happy birthday and can't say I ever think about them. They're just sort of there.

[craft1948]

As the first Mr Craft was a cheating, lying barstard.................er no.

[pa___ul3]

aah the problem here is you're thinking so much about it, there's obviously some emotional attachment there, so I'd say not now, no.
That whole 'meeting up just as friends' usually means a bit more, and I can imagine especially after only a couple of months, I reckon you're best off swerving it!

[EvianBaby]

hhmm. The last two times I saw him I blubbered like a baby so I would quite like for him to see me again while I'm not a quivering wreck.

He didn't actually use the words as friends but I know he doesn't want to rekindle anything. Better give it some thought.

[Sqad]

Crafty....are men lying cheating b@stards form the start or does being married make them that way? OR

If they are lying cheating b@rstards from the start, then why do women marry them?

[EvianBaby]

He might want a quick shack up though! ;o)

[rowanwitch]

Because the nice guys have boyfriends or very odd relationships with their mothers