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Update to "without anybody stating the obvious"....
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Well I did indeed confront him last night with the statement - he looked so stunned that he didnt even think to ask why it was open. composed himself very quickly then said it was towards his daughters future, then when i said why he has never once put money away weekly in the last 8 years, then chooses the exact month we got into dire financial worries he just wouldnt answer. Just kept repeating he could do what he likes for his daughter with his money. But you know that certain people do a specific thing when they are lying, like not looking you in the eye, or a nervous cough etc, well he has a specific thing that he does and he was difinitely lying. Havent a clue where to go from here now : (
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Evian, very good point about the money but the reason I dont think its for his daughter is that he set it up when we had so many money troubles and not when we were better off. He was nagging and nagging me every day to get another job, which i now know coincides with the time he started transferring money. So he clearly is having to put some money away from his account and needed me to earn more to cover it. Something just isnt right.
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I just think his reaction and the fact that its money he's tring to hide means its more than just an affair... I hope I'm wrong but he sounds like he is trying to trigger a break himself with his 'we might as well split up comments...and making no effort to smooth things over... quite common when someone feels guilty...its about trying to put the guilt onto the other party.
I think it's a bad idea for any of us to speculate and put ideas into Smowball's head, I'm sure she's got enough going on in there.
The fact is you think he's lying, I couldn't handle that level of distrust and it seems like you can't either, so get it out, tell him how much this is messing you up so if it's something relatively innocent to just spit it out. You're his wife, I'm sure you're more than willing to help him through any rough patches, so tell him.
I mean, I'm no expert, I'm 32 and nowhere near ever married, but that's how I think best to handle it, just get it all out there! Good luck!
The fact is you think he's lying, I couldn't handle that level of distrust and it seems like you can't either, so get it out, tell him how much this is messing you up so if it's something relatively innocent to just spit it out. You're his wife, I'm sure you're more than willing to help him through any rough patches, so tell him.
I mean, I'm no expert, I'm 32 and nowhere near ever married, but that's how I think best to handle it, just get it all out there! Good luck!
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