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Update to "without anybody stating the obvious"....
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Well I did indeed confront him last night with the statement - he looked so stunned that he didnt even think to ask why it was open. composed himself very quickly then said it was towards his daughters future, then when i said why he has never once put money away weekly in the last 8 years, then chooses the exact month we got into dire financial worries he just wouldnt answer. Just kept repeating he could do what he likes for his daughter with his money. But you know that certain people do a specific thing when they are lying, like not looking you in the eye, or a nervous cough etc, well he has a specific thing that he does and he was difinitely lying. Havent a clue where to go from here now : (
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Well then it seems likely that he is just putting money away for his Daughter.
Assuming his daughter has access to the account/statements I very much doubt he would be transferring money to her account if it was to be used for something dodgy. As I already said, he could simply withdraw it from his own account.
Assuming his daughter has access to the account/statements I very much doubt he would be transferring money to her account if it was to be used for something dodgy. As I already said, he could simply withdraw it from his own account.
Something clearly isn't right, but leaving him is a little drastic. Smowball needs to get to the bottom of this.
If he was "stashing" with the idea of leaving then he could easily have set up an internet account which is paperless. Doesn't sound like drugs or gambling or another woman because there are no withdrawals.
The daughter must know that there is extra money in her account (how old is she btw?) so she must be complicit in this in some way. Is it possible the daughter is in some sort of trouble. There is an explanation - getting to it is the answer.
If he was "stashing" with the idea of leaving then he could easily have set up an internet account which is paperless. Doesn't sound like drugs or gambling or another woman because there are no withdrawals.
The daughter must know that there is extra money in her account (how old is she btw?) so she must be complicit in this in some way. Is it possible the daughter is in some sort of trouble. There is an explanation - getting to it is the answer.
Exactly Barmaid.
I see it this way, he has his daughter and whilst he might care for your son, he's not his son and doesn't see him in the same way as his own child. He figures it's his money and he'll do what he wants with it. And he wants his daughter to have some of it. But if you knew about it, you would request the same be done for your son and he doesn't really want to do that.
I see it this way, he has his daughter and whilst he might care for your son, he's not his son and doesn't see him in the same way as his own child. He figures it's his money and he'll do what he wants with it. And he wants his daughter to have some of it. But if you knew about it, you would request the same be done for your son and he doesn't really want to do that.
I see ummm, thanks - I had missed that bit.
Still seems odd that he is putting it in her account - would have been the easiest thing in the world to transfer it into an internet account. I wonder if as the OP has alluded to dire financial worries, he is concerned about going bankrupt and thinks this is a way of hiding money?
Still seems odd that he is putting it in her account - would have been the easiest thing in the world to transfer it into an internet account. I wonder if as the OP has alluded to dire financial worries, he is concerned about going bankrupt and thinks this is a way of hiding money?
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hmmm, If he has suggested splitting up in the past I would err to that, I have known a few blokes who have done exactly the same thing before leaving their girlfriends (start squirrelling money away)
I also dont buy the "saving money for his daughters future" especially as he hasnt done likewise for his son.
other issues such as his secretive behaviour and your lack of knowledge about him/his money/the bank accounts is also iffy, marriage is a partnership. its time for you and him to talk honestly, but be prepared for what you may hear.
I also dont buy the "saving money for his daughters future" especially as he hasnt done likewise for his son.
other issues such as his secretive behaviour and your lack of knowledge about him/his money/the bank accounts is also iffy, marriage is a partnership. its time for you and him to talk honestly, but be prepared for what you may hear.
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