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Am i being unreasonable?
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My girlfriend has a male friend who she goes for coffee and shopping with a couple of times a week, he is single.
This irritates me and i really cant help it, its not that i think she would cheat with him but its more if people i know see them out together i get the "ooh i seen your gf with another man the other night having coffee" snide remarks,
i had female friends when i was single but since being in a relationship i have explained to them that it wouldnt be right to be out with them,
I really dont like this person my gf sees so there is no hope of talking it through with him, i cant pretend to like him.
am i being selfish?
This irritates me and i really cant help it, its not that i think she would cheat with him but its more if people i know see them out together i get the "ooh i seen your gf with another man the other night having coffee" snide remarks,
i had female friends when i was single but since being in a relationship i have explained to them that it wouldnt be right to be out with them,
I really dont like this person my gf sees so there is no hope of talking it through with him, i cant pretend to like him.
am i being selfish?
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Yes. You are being selfish, but I can understand your jealousness. A good relationship is based on trust and early in a relationship trust has to be earned. When you realise that your girlfriend is not going to have an affair with every man she has a cup of coffee with you are beginning to gain trust in her and your relationship will move to the next level.
The same goes for you. Can you not trust yourself to have female friends without it going further than friendship? Perhaps that's the problem. You look at yourself and think your girlfriend is just the same as you.
Like I said, until you can trust each other, you can't move on to the next level.
The same goes for you. Can you not trust yourself to have female friends without it going further than friendship? Perhaps that's the problem. You look at yourself and think your girlfriend is just the same as you.
Like I said, until you can trust each other, you can't move on to the next level.
I wouldn't be best pleased about the situation really. When I met my OH, he lived in a shared house and was quite friendly with one of the girls there. I think her nose was pushed out of joint when he met me, but he wanted to spend all his time with me (those were the days lol).
I think you're best not saying anything negative about their friendship as it will make her cross with you and you don't want her telling her friend. He may try and wind you up, or see her more knowing it annoys you.
Just say that he's not your type of person if your gf mentions him. I would try and bite your tongue and just don't mention their outings at all!
Do you live together? How long have you been together? Is her friend nice to you or do you think his nose was pushed out when your gf met you?
I think you're best not saying anything negative about their friendship as it will make her cross with you and you don't want her telling her friend. He may try and wind you up, or see her more knowing it annoys you.
Just say that he's not your type of person if your gf mentions him. I would try and bite your tongue and just don't mention their outings at all!
Do you live together? How long have you been together? Is her friend nice to you or do you think his nose was pushed out when your gf met you?
Looking at your other question it seems like you changed your mind about what you wanted and to be honest if my boyfriend of less than two months tried to control who I was friends with I'd go mad too.
You said you weren't ready for a relationship in your other thread so maybe you should just knock it on the head for a while.
You said you weren't ready for a relationship in your other thread so maybe you should just knock it on the head for a while.
I hate shopping, so if my husband chose to hit the shops with a female friend, I'd be grateful!!!
If you ignore the situation, your GF may think you don't care about her. If you probe too much, she may rebel! It's awkward, Trust is the basis of a relationship. Offer to take her out shopping, spoil her!?!
If you ignore the situation, your GF may think you don't care about her. If you probe too much, she may rebel! It's awkward, Trust is the basis of a relationship. Offer to take her out shopping, spoil her!?!
