I think I would agree with the magazine article. I had a certain criteria for the type of man I wanted, he had to be this, he had to be that and I didn't want this and that.
I was opting for men who probably more fitted my physical requirements, rather than ideal emotional and charater traits. Then I unexpectedly met my current partner. I never dreamed I would ever be interested in someone like him, he certainly was not my physical type and many times I dismissed him as being a potential partner.
Anyway, I decided to set aside my preset rules and decided to give him a chance. I'm so glad I did, he is a wonderful, loving and caring partner, who treats me like a princess.
So I would say go ahead and light that match burn your checklist.