more men problems

[xJx]

i know iv written in previously about the guy that im seeing and how we are everything but officially a couple (his choice) we act like bf and gf, see each other all the time, go on holiday together and speak everyday (he texts and rings alot) but yet he still wont make the committment. sometimes he will be all over me and wont stop talking to me other times its like his not bothered. today he hasn't been that fussed to chat to me but when he eventually did, he suggested we go away for a few days in a couple of weeks. originally i thought his lack of committment was down to the fact he came out of a 3 year relationship at the start of the year and they have a 8 month child together. he insists he doesnt want the ex back and i am the main reason for this. last night i was at his and there was a picture of his ex and baby up that hasn't been there before. i got quite upset about this but didnt let on. im feeling so down today about it all. i have fallen in love wit him big time and although he says the same and acts in such an affectionate way towards me, he still wont committ. he has even spoken about us living together recently and going travelling next year so y wont he go that step further and make 'us' official?

[Amber1571]

Hi, it sounds to me that you are 'official', you are seeing each other, making plans, even if they are general, he says he loves you and you him - sometimes actions speak louder than words. However, in relation to the photo, I think you should just ask him, don't accuse him, just ask him, you are not being unreasonable.

Good luck,

x

[LauJ]

Hiya,
You say you want to make it 'official' but in what way is he not acting like a boyfriend? Is he still seeing other people?
Lau

[havinmysay]

does he see the baby

[oldwoman]

Apicture of the baby fair enough, but not with his ex.

[laho pia]

Hey maybe he just has a different definition to the "ofiicial couple" tag to your definition -or most other peoples definitions! Maybe he thinks that official couples get married or are engaged..? Just a thought as I used to think that "friends" were only friends if I confided in them, not necessarily "friends" if I just hang out and shop or whatever.

[xJx]

I know, thats what annoying me because we are more or less a couple he just wont go that little further and committ. Neither of us are seeing other people, as far as I'm aware he hasn't because most nights he is either with me or at pub with friends if not at home. He sees the baby a few times a week but access is limited. Went round earlier and the picture is not up anymore but in a box in his room. I didn't say anything. I'm going to ease off a bit and see if it makes a difference. Last time I did and it worked a treat. I just hope he doesn't lose interest. His been a bit 'cold' with things today whether thats me ebing fussy or he actually is I dont know but we'll se what happens tomorrow. Thanks for suggestions