I Need To Talk

[Bobbisox1]

I know I’ve been called a narcissist , an attention seeker and so on, but I’m in such pain tonight, believe me

[Bobbisox1]

We talked about what a happy childhood he had which meant a lot ,a load of other stuff without blame

[jourdain2]

Oh Bobbi! I am so very sorry that I wasn't online earlier . Of course you are not an attention-seeker etc., I find you a warm and caring outgoing person.
All that apart, I feel for you so very deeply. In May, my Godchild was found dead. Waiting for coroner, but suicide is likeliest.
I'm not important right now, but you are. I just wanted you to know that I understand.
You have done the right thing by speaking on here, I couldn't. I feel as if you are a friend and like a friend I am here to listen - except that we are off to the wilds of Scotland tomorrow with no internet for a week. It happens thus.
So, for what it's worth, I tell you to ignore the hurters, the needlers, the ones you don't need and take comfort in all who feel and know your worth. xx

[Bobbisox1]

Thank you jourdain , very often it’s easier to unload to strangers as family and friends are to connected , I think I come over as a ‘happy slappy’ kinda of poster when in truth something like this happens , I’m not

[puzzled54]

So sad for you Bobbi, keep talking to your son, he needs you

[Bobbisox1]

He does puzzled and I’m here

[maggiebee]

I'm just so sorry to read your post. You will get plenty of support on here as you know. Have you thought of ringing the Samaritans? No advice, just a listening ear. Take care and God bless.

[gness]

I'm so sorry to read this, Bobbi. Can't say anything other than thinking of you and wishing you strength to get through this terrible time. Gx

[Barmaid]

Bobbi, I am so very sorry to hear this news. You must be beside yourself with a whole range of emotions and thoughts. My heart goes out to you.

Put to one side what might have been said in the past. It's irrelevant. You are grieving, hurt, shocked and probably feeling confused as to the way forwards.

I'm very sorry. The best advice I can offer is please know that not being OK, is OK. I wish you strength.

[Barsel]

Oh Bobbs, have just come on here for the first time today and the first thing I saw was your post.
I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this awful news.
All I can say is I'm glad you have your hubby there with you for support and your son is talking with you.
I really cannot imagine how you feel, it would be my worst nightmare
Please know I'm thinking of you and hoping you somehow find the strength to cope.
Love Barsel xxx

[Bobbisox1]

It’s the thinking how did she die ,God knows what my son is going through right now

[Bobbisox1]

Thank you x

[Thisoldbird]

Oh my goodness I am so sorry to read this.

You have my deepest sympathy. I too was estranged from my only child/son.

Thankfully you are back in touch.. RIP your dear Grandaughter.

Talk away I know from experience the kind people on AB are so kind and comforting in times of trouble.

Gentle hug. Xx

[Lie-in King]

I'm so very sorry to see your news, Bobbisox. My thoughts & sincerest condolences are with you & your family.

[Bobbisox1]

Thank you, I want to go to bed and think this has been a bad dream and I’ll wake up in the morning to start again

[wolf63]

The fact that your son contacted you is the only positive in this horrible situation. I hope that some good come comes out of this frightening experience.

The people of AB have shown themselves to be very caring and supportive to others who are in pain.
This place is like a family with crazy old uncles, nutty old ladies and grumpy gits. We might not like each other but when needed we can be 'there' for each other.I

Thinking of you xx

[lankeela]

Sad times indeed, and who knows what your grandaughter was going through. If it has brought you back in touch with your son then take that positivity from an otherwise bad situation. My oldest best friend lost her 40 year old daughter to drugs a couple of months ago - they had not spoken for a few years and she had been caring for her grandson as her daughter's lifestyle was not suitable to bring up a child. Even though the circumstances were not good it was still tragic and my friend felt totally crushed that she could not have helped her daughter, but she was not the sort to want or take any help offered. She is now caring for the grandson and trying to come to terms with it all. Hope you can help your son through this, no matter what has happened he still needs his mum when times are hard.

[Bobbisox1]

A turbulent nights sleep and it’s still dark out there, at least when asleep you’re oblivious to the real pain , then you wake up and it’s there to follow you again

[Canary42]

I can't relieve the pain, but I can say that like many Abers, I'm thinking of you in your distress. Take care x.

[Bobbisox1]

Thanks Canary, my head aches and I want to be sick , I’ll have this coffee and try to go back to bed for a bit , I feel like I’m the only person in the world sitting here

[emmie]

sorry to hear this Bobbi, you have my mail address if you want to write it down, take care of yourself and may your granddaughter rest in peace.