Do I Message Him Or Let Him Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

I'm meant to be going with guy I went on a date with on Saturday tonight do I message him if I don't hear from him or let him message me?

[Neveracrossword]

If you want to go on a date with bearded guy, go. If you don't, don't.

 

[scorpiojo]

Tell the bearded man you're sorry, but you don't think you're right for each other.

If you genuinely like the second one, either tell him that you still want to see other men, or just stick with him.

 

[newmodarmy]

You liked early guy's personality but not his beard, piercings....might be worth checking whether he has shaved it off and maybe removed the piercings on holiday to please you. Maybe he s even washed the chocolate stain you didn't like off his trousers. He may look better with a suntan.

[RandyMarsh]

somebody catch me up on the first 100 posts pls

[jourdain2]

Sorry Randy, I've given up.  :(

[RandyMarsh]

quitter!  Message him, learn to love the beard, give the beard a name.

[RandyMarsh]

a cute name 

[Hazlinny]

^^^ Now that could be a whole new thread! 😃

[Dizmo]

Abbey: I know this is off-topic, however I have a question I'd like to ask. You don't need to answer it, if you don't feel comfortable doing so.

Do you think/feel that you are on the autistic spectrum? I only ask because my partner is autistic (Aspergers) and I see similarities with how you and she communicates - as well as other things that she has difficulties with.

I believe you would benefit from an official diagnosis. I don't know how good the IAS (Integrated Autism Service) are, I only know how helpful the support can be in England. By getting a diagnosis you could access support to help you with many of the things that you come to AnswerBank to ask questions about.

Future employers would also have to make some allowances for you, if you had an official ASD diagnosis - within reason, you still wouldn't be able to get away with taking time off to have your nails/hair done, etc.

It may be worth having a think about. Apologies if anything I have said has caused offense, that wasn't, and isn't my intention. 

[scorpiojo]

Abbey has previously mentioned having dyspraxia, Diz. (I know that's not the same thing as being on the spectrum.)

[Dizmo]

Jo, yeah I've slowly started working my way through all the threads/posts. I've also read that other ABers have offered support with this previously. Abbey said that her doctor had said she isn't autistic. I don't know all the details, however I find it very unlikely that any GP could diagnose autism. My interpretation of it was that she'd been to what I'd call a 'standard doctor's appointment' and they've said, "you dont have autism".

As I'm sure you already know, a autism diagnosis can take a few hours, spread out over more than one appointment. My partners ASD diagnosis took about 2 hours and family back history, including a 1 hour consultation with myself. After the two video recorded consultations with my partner, they then showed the videos to a panel of specialists.

That's why I find it impossible for a GP to 'diagnose' ASD like that. Unless they do it differently in Wales, which I suspect they don't.

I'd really like for her to get the support that she needs. I know that so many ABer's, yourself included, are doing your best to help her.

[abbeylee90]

I guess he wouldn't still message me if he lost interest 

[scorpiojo]

I guess not.

[Hazlinny]

^^^ Just catching up - which guy is this, the bearded one or current one?

[newmodarmy]

This is the one she's seen since she posted this question and he's now asking her to stay at his overnight. 

[abbeylee90]

Current one 

[juliecarlstan]

I DONT KNOW!! haven't ever figured out playing hard to get. But if you can - Play Hard To Get

[abbeylee90]

He working all this week 

[newmodarmy]

Does he work evenings then Abbey? 

[abbeylee90]

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