holidaying on his own

[suzie1]

my husband of 6 years has been going on holiday to corfu greece, every year for two weeks alone(thats what he says) he never takes me and the kids, coz he says he needs 'time alone' and never goes out normally and treats himself to a break once a year instead. He also claims that the kids are too small to go too far and he doesnt even take us inland. kids are 4 and 2. im confused as he is always at home, if not at work, he drives a taxi and works friday and saturday nights, so i cant really think that he would have someone else as when would he see her. I love him dearly, but i cannot understand why he wont take us away and what the real reason behind this is......what is corfu in greece like.....he stays at the kerkyra golf hotel in alykes......what do you people think about this, also he ahs asked me to take a loan in my name for 30grand coz he wants to invest in shares and gov bonds, i agreed, coz i dont want to not be supportive to him........

[NoMercy]

Suzie... you need to start standing up for yourself. Why is he asking you to take the loan out in your name. Is he planning on skipping the country and leaving you to foot the bill? Stand up for yourself, assert some authority, lean on friends and relatives if you have to, but don't let him walk all over you.

Btw... what is he like with you and your kids? Affectionate, loving, demonstrative?

[welshlibranr]

joggejayne sums it up perfectly! I think you should heed her warning.............................welsh

[Bobbisox]

I have stayed at this hotel suzie, it's very family orientated and not "lively" as such, as I recall it was quite expensive tho' . we went in September, a few yrs ago and the cost then was in excess of £800pp as it was at the better end of the market, it was all-inclusive, the beaches there were poor as I recall
Bobbi♥

[suzie1]

sara and those of you that are confused about my daughters age, my daughter was 4 years old the last time he went away, which was july 09 and she turned five in december 31st 09.

[suzie1]

im 29 and have been married 6 years

[suzie1]

hes 38

[welshlibranr]

If it's a quite expensive hotel, why is he going there every year? you have to ask yourself this?? don't trust him!! Do not take out the loan for him!!! dangerous move!! Stand up for yourself and your children!! and do it now!!...................Welsh

[suzie1]

hes really good with us, he loves the kids and plays with them, gives them alot of his time, they love him, hes good with me, but he never kisses me on the lips anymore, he did used to but all this year he did'nt. he says he loves me a lot, but hates kissing sorry too much info, please dont laugh at me, i really am so hurt at the moment

[cazzz1975]

expensive hotel? oh nice of him to spoil himself ! do you and the kids get a holiday?

[cazzz1975]

sorry but he doesnt sound such a great catch to me....

[Bobbisox]

suzie, this is the link here pet

http://www.louishotel...tar_Kerkyra_Golf.html

[123everton]

Lots of couples holiday separately, although I disagree with the practice.
DON'T borrow the money, IF you do then you want YOUR NAME on the bonds, otherwise (if it's stock he's buying) your buying the risk and he's reaping the benefit.
As a hypothesis, he may have another family, he may be working fewer hours than he claims, he may be on holiday with them and he may need the money for a house with them and they may not know a thing about you.
This appears to be an accident waiting to happen there's an alarm bells all over it.

[suzie1]

i havent been away since 2004 when he took me to paris for our first wedding anniversary...hasnt taken us anywhere since and i am not confident to go alone with the kids

[welshlibranr]

So sad for you suzie! but you cannot let this man dominate you! you owe it to yourself and your children to stand up to him, they and you need a holiday too! what makes him think that he can treat you all this way???????????????? sorry but he's not a good man, and you need to face the fact, and deal with it, if not for you, for your children!!........................WELSH

[cazzz1975]

alarm bells ringing here, this will go on for as long as you allow this bloke to use you as a doormat. you need an injection of self esteem.

[yogi-bear]

Hi suzie,

Just logged on....saw Sara's comment and link she posted from Nov 09, where you say you're daughter is 5.....now you say she had her birthday on New Years Eve 31st Dec 09, so she's just jturned 5.........

She was already 5 in November?, so yes....a little confused?............(Mums and Dad's tend to know their kids ages)

[Bobbisox]

You really must tell him how selfish he is being pet,,Please don't put your name to any loan !

[NoMercy]

Let me get this right... he has an expensive holiday every year, but has not taken his wife or children on holiday for the last 6 years?

Suzie... you need to leave this w*nker...

[joggerjayne]

You haven't been away since 2004, and he's off for holidays in the sun?

OMFG !!!

Are you serious ????????????????????????