holidaying on his own

[suzie1]

my husband of 6 years has been going on holiday to corfu greece, every year for two weeks alone(thats what he says) he never takes me and the kids, coz he says he needs 'time alone' and never goes out normally and treats himself to a break once a year instead. He also claims that the kids are too small to go too far and he doesnt even take us inland. kids are 4 and 2. im confused as he is always at home, if not at work, he drives a taxi and works friday and saturday nights, so i cant really think that he would have someone else as when would he see her. I love him dearly, but i cannot understand why he wont take us away and what the real reason behind this is......what is corfu in greece like.....he stays at the kerkyra golf hotel in alykes......what do you people think about this, also he ahs asked me to take a loan in my name for 30grand coz he wants to invest in shares and gov bonds, i agreed, coz i dont want to not be supportive to him........

[suzie1]

thanks bobbisox, nice place eh!!!! he may well have another family somewhere everton, i guess i will never know

[yogi-bear]

Must be a reasonable explanation, so i apologise in advance if just being daft, suzie.

[pericat]

Suzie - only you know him properly but if you can do one thing here it is to NOT take out that loan. Talk to family and friends. Couples do go on seperate holidays and Im sure it can work but you work just as hard as he does with 2 little ones to take care of so why should he get the long luxurious holiday. You need to start standing up for yourself but please please do not take out that loan!

[suzie1]

i do know my daughters age, i just thought as she is near to being five, i should put five, soz for the confusion people, but i dont know why this has much to do with the question in hand

[cazzz1975]

hmmm why do I get the feeling you are just going to let this go and agree to the loan

[looobylooo]

perhaps in november it was just easier for suzie to say the child was 5 rather than 4 and 11 months! ..

[joggerjayne]

Or ... do take out the loan.

Spend part of it on a private detective to find out what the fcuk he's up to.

Spend the rest of it taking yourself and the children on the 6 years worth of holidays that you've missed !!

[yogi-bear]

Perhaps?

[suzie1]

im not going to let him take the loan.......i want some answers first and if he isnt happy then he can leave, i just didint want an atmosphere and dont really know what my rights are regarding the house and the kids

[suzie1]

what does a private detective cost

[welshlibranr]

You do know suzie, that if you agree to this loan, you have lost the battle for you and your kids!! Think very hard before you do it!!!!!!!!!!! IT'S A BIG MISTAKE!!!...............................wels
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[cazzz1975]

a waste of money using a private detective, you must already realise he is a salad chef

[NoMercy]

Suzie... in all seriousness.... you do NOT deserve to be treated like this. What kind of a man threatens to stop talking to his wife is she does not take a loan out on his behalf? What kind of a man goes on expensive holidays every year, whilst leaving his wife and children at home? Does he sound like a loving family man to you?

Perhaps you should suggest that he moves out for a while. Tell him that if he needs "some space" he should go and stay with a family member, but carry on contributing to the living costs. Tell him to take as much time as he needs !!! I wonder if that will put a new spin on things...

[Bobbisox]

Oh, pet I didn't want to hurt you , you seemed curious about the place thats all, it is not a place a man on his own would go tho', unless it has changed somewhat in the past few yrs, seek legal advice on your home, he's the one being unreasonable so it's fair to say, the children will be with you, I am not genned up on the legality of the situation but you need to take some advice my pet
Good luck
Bobbi♥

[cazzz1975]

the break will do wonders for your confidence as well

[karenmac60]

Suzie, I'm not sure if your circumstances have changed since this post
http://www.theanswerb...n/Question842734.html
If they have then I apologise for my insensitivity, but if you are still pregnant then you will soon have 3 children to support and a husband who is not being entirely upfront with you. He also doesn't seem to have any intention of changing that which does not bode well. If the worst happens you do not want to be a single mother of 3 with a 30 grand debt hanging over your head - especially if he's raking in the profits and using them to fund more holidays for himself. You MUST put your foot down over this one, he is taking you for a mug. What responsible father would think of borrowing to invest in shares when they have 2 children and another on the way? And why is he asking you to borrow the money? He may be good with the kids - my 13 year old daughter is great with kids, but she doesn't have the maturity to be a responsible parent, and neither, by the sound of things, does your husband.

[suzie1]

im not pregnant anymore.....

[tamborine]

He could be doing a Tiger Woods but unlikely. He just wants to play golf & socialise after. Your kids are young for a golf course and if you're not a golfer you wouldn't enjoy the holiday.

Dont lend him money, tell him you need it for your holidays with the kids.

[karenmac60]

I am so sorry. You don't need to be worrying about taking out loans or anyone's holidays at the moment, and you husband should be supporting you through this - whatever the circumstances. He shouldn't be pressuring you about money when you are probably at a very low point.

[cazzz1975]

I wouldnt mind but the golf course is 15km away, If I went to a golf resort I would go to one that has the course on site