Why Does This Have To Be Me?

[abbeylee90]

I got a job I don't enjoy with not enough hours, no car, no boyfriend and no house. I thought I'd have alot more going for me I did years so feel like I did something and being punished 

[MargoTester]

Do you talk to your friends about all this stuff or anyone who is a similar age to you. Most, not all, people who contribute to this site are much older than you and although we all try to help we don't seem to be getting very far.

[Prudie]

I think those who have chosen to protect abbey on here are not doing her any favours. If you step back you will see abbey is now posting the same threads over and over with the same answers, all ignored. Look at her profile for just the weekend. This site is  almost becoming her drug of choice, it's almost a desperate need for interaction. It's obvious to anyone what the issues are and thus consequent encouragement about jobs and boyfriends and driving are almost mean.

I do try to stay off the threads but it's really hard to see what's going on and not being able to speak plainly. Abbey you need your mother, medical and community support in my opinion (unless this is just all amusement for you).

[Barsel]

Pasta, Abbey needs professional medical help, and if she doesn't get it, I doubt anything will change for her.

The reason she doesn't act on the advice given here is because she is probably mentally incapable of doing it.

At the moment she has 3 threads running and I don't think any of her questions can be answered by anyone on on Answerbank.

Anyway, I've given my advice now, and there is nothing more I can add to that.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I think we are having to accept that you aren't (can't?) follow the advice and suggestions you've been given over the last year or so. Your problems seem to be increasing with every passing week. Maybe it's time you sought professional help? (Yes, I know you have ignored this advice before, but if you're going to post the same problems over and over again, you'll likely get the same advice on here!)

[naomi24]

To be perfectly honest I look at these threads and all I see is abbey being bombarded with questions and instructions - one after another - non-stop.  I'm not surprised she's confused by it all.  I would be too.  If she wants to talk, that's fine.  She doesn't have to take anyone's advice, no one need respond if they don't want to, but if they do it would be nice if they could do it in a kindly manner and not as I've seen some do recently.

[MargoTester]

Naomi, to be fair I think Abbey is bombarding us with questions and most people on here are trying to be helpful and kind but if that's want you want I won't post on these threads any more

[naomi24]

Margot, my post wasn't addressed to anyone in particular.   

[naomi24]

Sorry, Margo.

[Barsel]

Ok. I must admit I am pretty naive, and it never occurred to me that someone would pay someone else to put content on here.

It did cross my mind, as I'm sure it has with others, that this is a wind-up, but we have been assured by those who no more than I do, that it isn't.

However, I have decided to believe this is a real person, because if it is, then we must be very careful how we answer the questions.

I think if people are questioning if she is genuine, I think perhaps it would be best for those people to not get involved.

I've asked Abbey to get professional medical help and that is all I can say, I can't add any more to that.

[andres]

^^^Whatever make the queries were still made. 

[fender62]

stop dwelling on the negatives, you get yourself in a perpetual rut of whats the point, it's like constantly waiting to win big on the lottery to solve your problems, then you dont win, then repeat this, go ou try lot's of different jobs, volunteer for things, you have the wind in your face and not your back, it's the little things that truly make us happy, not big houses ferrari's etc, i remember as a lad talking to older people ex soldiers, no one wanted to talk to them, assumed grumpy... they cheered me up, and me them, was a tonic for both, me them in social clubs, if they still exist, consider care home work it will open your eyes.

[naomi24]

Auntypoll, the editor has confirmed that abbey is a genuine poster.  Please refrain from casting doubt upon that.  Any further examples will result in your suspension.

[Barsel]

Naomi, I'm sorry but I have to agree with what some others have said on here about being bombarded with Abbey's threads.

How many are running at the moment, 3,4,5?

I must admit that when I come on here and see so many posts about Abbey, I tend to leave the site and go somewhere else.

I believe it's a situation that shouldn't be ignored although I don't know what can be done about it.

However, while all these threads greet me when I sign in, I will be signing straight out.

It wouldn't be so bad if Abbey accepted helpful advice, but a lot seems to be ignored and so it just goes on and on and on.

Anyway, I've said what I feel I needed to say and now I will go away and come back later when hopefully there will be something interesting to join in with.