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I've actually been in this position before as a child. Ironically when i was 7 my dad tried to get custody of me and he was successful. This was due however to my mum finally agreein that i would be best off with him as it was in fact her moving away. After that it was a very long process where my step mum was analysed very much and her occupation ect. I was interviewed quite often by social workers in my first year livin with my dad.
it seems weird that it feels like i've come full circle and am in fact on the other side of things now. After speaking with my dad I realised that he only got me after a long hard fight in which the final decision was based on my mum finally agreein. If she would of said no it wouldn't of happened.
i really hope it doesn't go as far as a court case because i would hate the lad to have to go through what i did and I would hate this to have an affect on his relationship with his mum, or his dad, who has got quite a good relationship with his son, and at the minute, a very civil, mature and relationship with us. Its awful to say but in the past when he has been as civil with us, it has been the beginning of him attempting something via his solicitor regarding the boy. From listening to the boy it would be devastating for him for his dad to pursue this. But then again I'm goin by what he tells us, the wee man might say different to his dad for fear of hurting anyone. I remember myself feelin that way.
I'm hoping ultimately the advice his father receives would advise him against pursueing this because as Ethel says, the only thing that matters is the best interests of the boy.