I'm 72 and I was never spanked and never spanked my children either. To my knowledge my grandchildren have never been spanked. Like getting the belt at school -abuse.
Do you think children who were physically punished (i'm not talking about a full belt pelting, just a spank on the bottom) turn out worse than those who werent?
I was rarely but occasionally spanked as a child, i'm grateful for it and hold no resent towards my parents. They did an amazing job at raising me.
Grandma approaching seventy here so a very older mother and totally against child abuse by spanking.....parents who spank are poor parents who can't bring up children well....x
"parents who spank are poor parents who can't bring up children well."
I completely disagree Gness i'm sorry. I'm sure there are many on AB who occasionally got a slapped bottom but are very decent fair human beings, meaning they were raised well.
Maybe the children you're use to are very fair and well behaved. There are some right demons out there who can only learn from a slap on the buttocks
And in the real world, that is sometimes the case RR. Very much so.
Ah i get you Sqad. And haha i understand that trust me i do, but how do you feel about children being spanked (lightly) for punishment? Let's get this straight, i do NOT mean the kind of abuse we saw in goodnight mr tom.
It's abuse because you are hurting someone......an infant as you say.
Children can be taught right from wrong without being hit.
I'm following you down the street and you drop litter.....instead of doing what I do in that situation I pull down your pants and spank you......
Do you thank me or decide I'm a crazy woman who has lost control.....and losing control is usually when a parent spanks.
I did once forty odd years ago and still regret it and wish I hadn't.....never did it again with either of my children and they're fine adults.
I know from my years of working with children that hitting them because you're a parent and think that's how you produce a fine adult doesn't work......as well as being a really weird thing to do....x
I get what you mean though and fair play.. But i mean, what do you do then, if your child is playing up high heavens, maybe hitting or slamming doors, maybe even pulling hair or playing up at a family BBQ? Just shout at them or something? What if they then mock you shouting at them? Do you take the moral high ground and ignore them? Or spank them on the bottom?