(Very) Unlucky In Love?

[LazyGun]

I remember following and reading this poor womans story when the news first broke - a victim of domestic abuse at the hands of her boyfriend, throttled into unconscious, regaining her consciousness only to find that her boyfriend had gouged her eyes out. Horrific, savage brutality which I find incomprehensible.

She then became a campaigner against domestic violence, wrote a book, and settled in with a new partner - who has recently been jailed for assaulting her.

I really feel for her.I also cannot understand this impulse that prompts the physical assaults, and the brutality of it. I can think of no conceivable circumstance in which I would employ such violence.

Is she just unlucky? Does it suggest poor judgement? Or is it simply that many men have poor impulse control and a deep well of violent rage?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2013/jul/22/domestic-violence-boyfriend-jailed-campaigner

[naomi24]

Goodlife, stop preaching. We know how men should treat their wives. The question is:

//Is she just unlucky? Does it suggest poor judgement? Or is it simply that many men have poor impulse control and a deep well of violent rage? //

How about answering that?

[emmie]

what it says in the bible and what actually happens are two different things

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic_violence_topic.asp?section=0001000100220036

[goodlife]

//Is she just unlucky? Does it suggest poor judgement? Or is it simply that many men have poor impulse control and a deep well of violent rage? //

OK. Where do you want me to start? It could be all of these. It all started back in Genesis with the first couple rebelling against God. Had they kept their integrity and refused to listen to the serpent, they and their offspring would not be in the situation we have today. So, whose fault is it?

[Octavius]

I agree wholheartedly woth what Ummmm said.

There are many women I know who revel in the drama of 'I've been their sister' and the attention that results - even though, its may be very minor, or even non existent and a fantasy of their mind.

Sadly, there are also true victims of sustained domestic violence who are just vulnerable and come across terrible controlling and brutal people.

[naomi24]

Goodlife, never mind where I'd like you to start - unless you had something relevant to add, I'd have liked you to stop at 'It could be all of these.'

[goodlife]

Well you said it, ok