"Jim once again rattles off reams of introspective blurb as if writing a thesis ..."
To be fair, I could do with the practice. And for the rest, well, I was trying to condense a 600-page document, and you'll forgive me for deciding that it's going to take rather a lot more than a hundred words to do that and be fair, to both sides of the argument. Naomi's post, for example, was a slightly edited version of the original article, focusing on the points she wanted to make, but the article itself is arguably too condensed and misses a lot of important context ie comparative figures. So I thought I should include that, as it makes it easier to interpret what's going on, hopefully. For example, some of the stats really are bad because they are outrageously excessive, whereas others only *look* bad until you realise that they aren't that different from the rest of us, or at least from the rest of us less than a generation ago.
But anyway, I can't really think of an answer to Naomi's question, except that perhaps the "milk-and-water" approach is probably prompted in part by what it sees as an *overly* aggressive approach to integration, eg by describing
all Muslims as undesirable, or unwilling to integrate, or the like, none of which are true or fair. Unfortunately, their response is instead overly defensive. Perhaps the best way to abandon it would be for both sides of that argument to agree that it's in everyone's best interest to recognise that there is a problem, but to make sure its scale is not exaggerated.
As to this bit: "But can [jim] tell us why we are not, indeed never been, accused of Sikhophobia or Hindophobia." I found these three links (along with a host of books on the topic, none of which I have read, but might be worth a look, eg
http://nsouk.co.uk/government-fails-to-take-anti-sikh-hate-crime-seriously/
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/religion/11410809/Sikh-lives-matter-in-Britain-too-whether-Sikh-or-Muslim-racists-dont-discriminate.html
http://www.telegraphindia.com/1050909/asp/nation/story_5216557.asp
In all cases it could perhaps be argued that this is really the result of Islamophobia for berks, but still the fact is that "Hinduphobia" and "Sikhophobia" are also problems. They are less noticeable in the UK perhaps (in India, less so). Islamophobia here is just more visible, and perhaps easier to rationalise.