Breastfeeding Mum Verbally Abused In Nando's Restaura

[mikey4444]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/37939718

I am not that surprised at this, as prejudice and bigotry abound when it comes to nursing mothers.

But in this particular case, the ignorant person making the complaint was another woman !

[aelmpvw]

//I'm not really sure why it's considered newsworthy though//
me neither, especially as i was castigated for going off topic!

[andy-hughes]

Naomi - //anneasquith, people shouldn’t have to move seats because others are inconsiderate. //

Perceived lack of consideration is rarely done deliberately - verbal abuse is always done deliberately.

[New Judge]

“You could open your Restaurant as a Private members Club - I'm sure we could come up with a suitable name ;-)”

Good idea, Mamy. I was thinking of “MOGs” – (Miserable Old Gits)

Here’s a strange thing. Sqad said this:

“…if you were going out for a meal, then why take a 11 week old baby?”

Mikey has been back a few times since then, but no castigation. I said this:

"Mothers should not drag their offspring round with them to places where they really should not" (Which was more or less the same thing, though slightly more forthright). I get told I should be ashamed of myself. Strange.

“Now I will take an educated guess that a feeding mother is not keen on making an exhibition out of what is an intimate time with her baby,..”

Exactly. So stay indoors, be as intimate as you like, and when you go out to eat leave the little one in the care of someone else (perhaps the baby’s father). Feed the child before you go and it will last until you get back (which means you can’t stay out too long – one of the small adjustments you have to make as a new parent).

Just to lighten the mood, I remember watching “The Lost Honour of Christopher Jefferies”. This was the story of retired schoolteacher Christopher Jefferies who was initially questioned by police as a suspect in the murder of Jo Yeates who rented a flat from him. In one scene he is seen saying good evening to a young couple (who rented another flat from him) as they were about to go out. “Where are you off to?” he asked. “We’re just going to get some Nando’s” they replied. After a brief pause and a look of bewilderment, Jefferies said “Er…what is a Nando?” I could almost ask the same question but there’s a branch just down the road from me, so I can’t really.

[ummmm]

How many kids do you have,NJ?

[Mamyalynne]

Decent title NJ, you'd have a waiting list.

[aelmpvw]

i'm going to book

[andy-hughes]

The main issue I have with a story like this is -

Every time you heap a bit more blame on the victim, you take a bit more responsibility off the villain.

I don’t think for one moment that this nursing mum set out to upset anyone, but she was still abused verbally for feeding her baby.

We need shift away from trying to define exactly how much offence the mother is deemed to have caused, and why, and move towards blaming the nasty woman who abused her, because the real fault lies there.

[jackthehat]

I get the feeling that 'new fatherhood' never impinged on some of our more senior ABers; that it was part of the 'little woman's' remit and providing there was a well-chilled G&T to hand and a home-cooked supper was only minutes away, they sailed through early parenthood more or less obliviously.

[agchristie]

DB > We've had buckets of woe from the offended mother...

Are you suggesting she is milking it? :o)

[losgigs]

This discussion is teetering towards the ridiculous.
Well said Andy H.

[Ellipsis]

> You could open your Restaurant as a Private members Club - I'm sure we could come up with a suitable name ;-)”
>> Good idea, Mamy. I was thinking of “MOGs” – (Miserable Old Gits)

Judge Mental's :D

[Mamyalynne]

Nice one ;-)

[hereIam]

Excellent posts Sqad. I was in the eye line of a breast feeding mother once in a restaurant so I couldn't escape her gaze. She glared at me and I hadn't done or said anything - I felt very uncomfortable.

[237SJ]

Oh dear, she must be so distressed. It`s known as a First World Problem

[mikey4444]

Amazing lack of empathy on this issue, for a lady that was verbally abused, when out with her baby and husband.

Whether the breast was visible or not is immaterial......if the woman that abused the mother wasn't happy with the breast-feeding, she should have made a discreet complaint to the Management, which she plainly didn't do.

[237SJ]

For me, empathy tends to diminish when I read an article like that and then see that poor little girl (Jessica) with neuroblastoma on the same page.

[bednobs]

"I get the feeling that 'new fatherhood' never impinged on some of our more senior ABers; that it was part of the 'little woman's' remit"
too right JTH i was once asked by one of the curmudgeonly old *** on here why i bothered having children if i was only going to put them in nursery and only spend the evenings/weekends with them. I would have liked to ask that man how much time he had spent with HIS children during the working week but thought he'd only huff off and take offence as usual

[-Talbot-]

mikey4444
Amazing lack of empathy on this issue, for a lady that was verbally abused, when out with her baby and husband.



Jesus wept, mikey ... tit for tat spats like this happen in every town everyday up and down the country. How this got to be a BBC news item god only knows.