Breastfeeding Mum Verbally Abused In Nando's Restaura

[mikey4444]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/37939718

I am not that surprised at this, as prejudice and bigotry abound when it comes to nursing mothers.

But in this particular case, the ignorant person making the complaint was another woman !

[Islay]

So if the woman was sitting in a restaurant wearing a low cut top exposing her breasts then she is fair game for abuse?

[Tashi]

Did you read the quote mikey, it suggests the womans breasts were visible? That is not acting discreetly in my opinion.

[naomi24]

Come off it Islay. You know the difference between a low cut top and a whole breast exposed.

[murraymints]

especially when the whole top is removed....fair put me off my muffin ! lol

[Sqad]

Islay....stop being silly.

[Islay]

Well thank you Naomi and Sqad for your feedback, don't mind if I ignore it now do you!

Jolly good

[Ellipsis]

> If you wind a new-born baby properly with frequent pauses in feeding, they don't vomit

The thing is, andy, that new-born babies do often vomit - we've all seen it. Possibly because not all new mothers know your methods, possibly because you're wrong, possibly because it's impossible to lump all mothers and babies into the same perfect category, but babies do vomit in public - fact.

Personally, I can take this. Anything but screaming ...

> she said she didn't want to see my breasts when she was eating her dinner

I'd rather *see* a breast (or, more accurately I guess, "nipple") than *hear* a screaming baby while I was eating, but just because the complainant said they could see breasts, doesn't mean they could, or at least not for long. That type of expression is often used by people who complain about breastfeeding in public. The fact is, if something unusual happens or if the mother/baby is still learning, a nipple may be on display for a short time for any who are looking in that general direction. It's preferable to hearing a screaming baby no matter where you're looking.

[naomi24]

Ellipsis, no one has suggested a baby be left screaming, simply that the mother feed the child discretely - which this one doesn't appear to have done.

[Tilly2]

Another bust up on AB!

[jackthehat]

///Ms Skelcher said: "I was in the restaurant with my partner and mother-in-law when Evie woke up and needed a feed, so I lifted her and latched her on discreetly. ///

///"I felt like I hadn't done anything wrong, in fact I had specifically selected a table in a quiet corner of the restaurant so that I could be discreet.///

She's a pretty poor exhibitionist.....

[andy-hughes]

OK, let's take a step back from the minutia we are tangled up in here - let's park the amount of breast that was or was not on view and return to the gist of the OP -

this young mother was verbally abused in a restaurant by someone who took exception to her behaviour, and refused the offer of another table.

Now I don't care if the woman was breastfeeding, or chewing with her mouth open - the adverse behaviour of another diner requires a discreet word with the manager, not abuse to disturb everyone.

Abuse of strangers in public is wrong - the reason is secondary.

[Sqad]

A-H


\\\\\Abuse of strangers in public is wrong - the reason is secondary.\\

Agreed....both have to be addressed.....abused and reason for abuse.

[ummmm]

Do people complain about top less women on holiday or is it only offensive when feeding a baby

[Sqad]

ummmm

My opinion.......it is only offensive when feeding a baby in a public place.

[Islay]

But that's what breasts are for!!

[jackthehat]

///My opinion.......it is only offensive when feeding a baby in a public place. ///

Who wants a baby obscuring their view?

[naomi24]

The word ‘offence’ is bandied around far too freely and is much abused. This wouldn’t ‘offend’ me, but when I go to a restaurant I don’t expect to be confronted by someone’s exposed breasts. It is not a mother’s ‘right’ to make other people feel uncomfortable unnecessarily, but we’re all expected to embrace the Mother Earth mentality of the people who think it is. Well, I don’t. Babies can be fed discretely.

[ummmm]

She probably was being discreet but the complainer was just offended because they knew what she was doing

[Ellipsis]

> Ellipsis, no one has suggested a baby be left screaming, simply that the mother feed the child discretely - which this one doesn't appear to have done

What makes you say that? The opinion of the complainant, reported through the partner of the mother? Why would you read more into that second-hand opinion than what the mother herself said directly in the article?

In any case, whether she was dicreet or not (or even had to be) is simply a matter of opinion. Nando's says it is a breastfeeding-friendly restaurant that welcomes nursing mothers, so people who don't like that are free to eat elsewhere.

[naomi24]

Ellipsis , it wasn’t reported through the partner. The mother said:

//she [the complainant] said she didn't want to see my breasts when she was eating her dinner." //