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If I had been sexually abused to the point it ruined my whole life for 40 years I would be able to recall every small detail..."
I don't believe you for a second, but I'm glad that you haven't had the chance to realise how wrong you are. Memory doesn't work the way you think it does.
At the risk of drawing too close a comparison, I was thinking back to the times I've been beaten up or mugged in the street lately. Both of them seriously affected my attitude for years, and while I can't claim permanent scarring, luckily, they were harrowing enough all the same.
But the thing is, a lot of the details are fading now. I can't even remember which one happened first, what day it was, the year, etc. I do remember one particular detail about one of them rather vividly: the helplessness I felt as one of the gang left me and joined the circle surrounding my brother, and all I did was watch as they fought with him instead. But the rest is kind of blurring into nothingness. Similarly for the other incident, where I can no longer remember who it was who beat me up, even though at the time I was able to confidently identify him.
I really don't want to turn this thread into a story about me, but the basic truth of the matter is that memory does not work the way you think it does if you expect Ford to be able to recall all the details of what happened before and after. Only the truth of the event, and the emotional impact, can be expected to remain.
It's therefore a nonsense to argue that Blasey Ford must be lying because she can't remember how she got to the place or from it. There's no reason to expect her to remember these things.
The pay-off, of course, is that if this case were ever to come before a court of law then the lack of detail in the story has to count against a conviction. But we aren't in a court of law. This is about deciding who to allow to make the laws of the country, and I would think it stands to reason that the lawmakers of the US should be held to the highest standards of behaviour and accountability. The very nature of this story, and Kavanaugh's response to it, damages his credibility and fails to meet those high standards, does it not?
Most people, and even most Supreme Court nominees, don't even have whispers of this sort of thing. Neil Gorsuch, whatever else you think of his role in swinging the Court to the right, never faced these allegations, so it's a nonsense to assume that they are just deployed as weapons whenever political foes feel like it. Of course, the Democrats tried to block the nomination in other ways, for political reasons, but there again that was their job as the opposition, and it's sadly part and parcel of modern US politics.
Regardless of the specifics, then, it is errant nonsense to claim, as AuntLydia does, that the memory of a traumatic event must be perfect or else it didn't happen. Anyone who thinks so understands neither memory nor trauma.