NJ // Just because a man “identifies” as a woman, it does not make him a woman. //
This is not being disputed. As I said earlier, one's sex can be ascertained at birth and is intransient.
There is no easy path for those who identify with the many facets of transgenderism - Depression, social anxieties, negative mental health issues and sadly, suicidal tendencies.
How lucky are you. There is probably little chance of anyone upsetting you when they refer to you by a pronoun which matches your blatantly perceived gender.
Indeed, you're so privileged my dear NJ.
however to deny someone else of this privilege is not only illmannered and hurtful, it's oppressive.
// casts doubt on the sanity of the person //
If the doubting of one's sanity be the the cost for politeness and respect, so be it!
Whereas your sanity will never be affected. It is therefore with soundness of mind you will continue to provoke disharmony and forever remain thoughtless, boorish and offensive!