Something Wrong With Me/my Boyfriend?

[rosekristy]

I know I've been asking this same question over and over but no one has really answered it or gave their advice but anyways, I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for almost three years and we've been physically intimate almost the whole three years but I've been on birth control for a year or two now and I haven't been pregnant once, now, I'm not asking for rude comments about how old we are or that we're too young for a baby and can't support him/her the way he/she should be, but let me tell you this, you don't know me or my love and you have no business telling me that we can't care for a child. My boyfriend and I are very capable of caring for a baby and meeting all the requirements that come along with having one. We understand the HUGE responsibility that comes along with a baby as well and I'm stable enough to take care of a child, as are we both financially stable enough for it as well. So, please, save your rude commentary for someone gives a crap. ANYWAYS, I have stopped the birth control for a little over a week and the following days up until today, we have been having unprotected sex, yes he has 'ejaculated inside of me' but a couple days after I stopped taking BC we had sex and I started having cramps and later on I had light bleeding, the day after I was bleeding heavier, almost like a regular period. (Mind you, the cramps and bleeding started in the same day, right after we had sex, about 3 days after I quit taking BC.) I still don't think I'm pregnant but I'm confused as to why I had cramps and bleeding because I usually don't get my period until around the 24th of each month, which was odd to me. But my boyfriend was hit a lot in the groin area when he was younger by this little girl he went to the bus stop with and we also smoke cigarettes, could him getting hit or us smoking have anything to do with it? Though, the cigarettes, I don't think have a factor in it because plenty of my family members have smoked and have gotten pregnant with no problem.

[AlwaysConfused]

you will experience withdrawal bleeding, which mimics an authentic menstrual period and occurs when your body goes through hormone withdrawal when you stop using the birth control pill for more than a couple of days.

[Vivkins3]

Have you considered getting married BEFORE you have a baby? Old fashioned I know but it demonstrates a committment on both sides to each other before you start bringing a baby into the equation. Why the rush at 17 years old anyway?

[woofgang]

financially stable at 17 and 19, wow did you win the lottery?

[IggyB]

Your natural cycle of when you have a period can take several months to re-establish, the current advice is to wait until you have had at least one normal period before trying to get pregnant.

Smoking and your boyfriend previous injuries are prob not related to period onset. Though evidence indicates that you baby would be in better health if either you nor your partner smoked at the time of conception.

Your local nurse or go should be able to offer some further guidance and can be very helpful for those planning on starting a family.

Link here to some info re stopping taking the pill
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/832.aspx?CategoryID=54&SubCategoryID=127

[Iluvspikey]

As alwaysconfused says, when you first stop taking the pill, it isn't really a proper period you have, just a withdrawl bleed. It can take your body several months to readjust and settle being 'back to normal'. Some women can conceive straight away, others take months, even years - there's nothing wrong, just the timing isn't right. to get pregnant the most fertile time is roughly half way through your cycle, that is two weeks after you finished your last period, or two weeks before your next one is due. It would be a good idea for you both to stop smoking, not just the fertility aspect but your general health and that of your future child.
Your boyfriend shouldn't wear tight underwear or jeans as it's important to keep the testicles cool for healthy sperm. don't worry if you don't get pregnant straight away, time is on your side.

[Mosaic]

If I may address your question other than the medicl issues, namely, 'is there something wrong...etc', I'd suggest that there is.
You come across as ill-mannered, and have dedicated much unnecessary space in your question to telling the reader what you think of them and their (as yet unoffered) opinions.
In case this had escaped your attention, people much younger than you all around the world produce babies. Many of them are living in abject poverty and lack daily meals.
Do you seriously think enjoying a smoke, or someone years ago having nudged your boyfriend's toolkit, is going to prevent nature taking its course?

[factor-fiction]

You ask whether there is something wrong with you and your boyfriend because after a 'little over a week' of unprotected sex you don't seem to be pregnant yet.
It seems to me to be a little early, but if you think there may be issues you and your partner need to seek medical advice face to face with a doctor

[excelsior-1]

17 .. and intimate for three years ... so you were at it illegally at 14

[Smowball]

I was thinking the same thing excelsior.

[sandyRoe]

You say that you are both financially stable. I don't know if you follow political news but this present government is tightening up on benefits and it might be a mistake to think that you could continue to depend on the largesse of the state to keep your burgeoning family.

[Hopkirk]

You say you have been asking this question over and over,but this is your first question on AB, and you only joined at 0317 this morning.

Personally I don't believe this is a genuine question.
I think you are a wind up merchant.

[Canary42]

I'm sorry to contravene the pre-conditions you set out in your question, but such naivete as you demonstrate over relatively basic human physiology shows that you are in no way ready to rear a baby.

You can of course remedy this shortcoming by undergoing appropriate counselling, advice, training etc. in bringing up baby, so please note that I am not putting it forward as a reason to defer your decision. I merely make the point to try to ensure that you suitably prepare yourselves for the happy event.

Good luck with your endeavours (and please cut the smoking during pregnancy).

[Smowball]

Unless they keep asking under different usernames ?

[boxtops]

rosekristy, since you have asked this question very rudely, I think you are going to have some direct answers - and I will ask you: if you are lucky enough to get pregnant in coming months (and it's very unlikely that you have done so in the last few days for the reasons others say), then how are you going to support yourselves and all the huge expense a new baby brings? Are you going to rely on state benefits and your parents? Do your parents know you've having unprotected sex? You are still a minor, not old enough to go to the pub yet. Your question suggests that this is a purely selfish desire to bring another person into the world, just to please you and your boyfriend. How will you find the thousands of pounds it costs to bring up a baby for the first few years, let alone feed yourselves? This sounds very badly thought out. You say we don't know you - no, we don't, but we've seen this scenario hundreds of times before - and so often, the only ones who really suffer are the children. Your post is really rude.

Are you in the US? Your time of posting suggests so - child benefit etc will be different there - this is a UK site.

[Maggoty]

Hi Rosekristy

You ask for no rude answers but I am not sure what you class as rude. Is 'rude' an answer you don't want to hear. Please don't take this as me just wanting to have a pop but you say you are mature enough and financially stable enough to support a child. At 17!! Trust me - no one is financially secure at that age unless, as previously mentioned, you have won the lottery. Also the fact that you naively are asking only a week after you have stopped the birth control also shows how little thought has been put into this. As for cigarettes - yes they do affect your chances. Just because members of your family were 'lucky' doesn't mean you will be. Lots of people don't die of cancer because they smoke - but a lot do. So if you have other factors that could be affecting the process (low sperm count etc) smioking will reduce your chances even more.

I hope the way your put the question was a blimp and that you aren't as crass, angry or as immature as you come across. None of which augers well for motherhood.

But I do wish you all the luck in the world if you do go ahead with a baby at this young age.

Ali

[Mosaic]

Excelsior - I think the age of consent is about 12 in rural arkansas. Seriously.
Didn't Jerry Lee Lewis wed a 14 yr-old?

[joko]

well... i cant imagine why other people havent answered you in the past ...

oh wait yes i can - because you sound like an ignorant, naive, and petulant child with a chip on your shoulder

id suggest you grow up a bit yourself before you decide you are capable of helping someone else grow up

[Mick-Talbot]

Give me a break, joko.......I haven't even posted on this thread...............

[Mosaic]

".....but answer came there none......"

[naomi24]

//I know I've been asking this same question over and over...//

According to your profile you've just joined and this is the only time you've asked this question.