A man is in love?

[{Dakota}]

My pal has been seeing a guy who already has a girlfriend for almost 1 year. She's fallen in love with this guy and he tells her he loves her. She asked him the other day if he is IN love with her, and he said that is a diffcult question to ask any guy but couldn't/wouldn't elaborate why that was a difficult question.

Is this a difficult question for you guys? Why?

If it's not such a difficult question, then is he just fobbing her off (keeping her sweet?) with telling her that he loves her so that he can continue to have regular sex with her?

[weeal]

thats precisely why its a difficult question - to him!
cos the answer is not what she is wanting to hear and if he told the truth the rat wouldnt get the sex

[cazzz1975]

well if he already has a girlfriend, he will say anything to keep her strung along. rest assured if she wanted more she wouldnt see him for dust

[{Dakota}]

She tells me that she never intended on getting into anything serious with him. They met, she liked him and it was going to be a one off.

After spending a bit more time with him, she realised that she liked him more than she anticipated in the first place so it's still going on.

What I don't understand on his part is that he spends time with her, it's not *just* sex between them and he's actually pretty sweet to her, but surely he can't be content in his relationship with his current before he's still seeing my pal? Also, wouldn't he just end things with my pal if it was bothering him knowing she wants more than what they have?

[cazzz1975]

dakota, if he was this great guy he wouldnt be cheating on his girlfriend.

does she see these qualities I wonder?

Liar
Cheat
shifty
arrogant

he is doing it because he can, he will never leave his girlfriend, your friend will have to accept that she is just a bit of spare who he is nice too to ensure the sex remains on a plate.

[weeal]

ooh DIZDABIZ youre shoutin!

[Petal~flower]

did she know he was seeing someone for "one year" whilst she was being friendly with him?

If she knew he was seeing someone for over a year. And then started a relationship with him.

Then why should she get any sympathy?

He is having his cake and eating it.

And your friend, should behave, and meet a single bloke.

[cazzz1975]

and why would she want a guy like that anyway who would probably cheat on her too

[{Dakota}]

I know, but I'm not asking for her to be judged or opinions on whether her situation is right or wrong, I'm asking if it's a genuinely difficult question for guys (a species I swear I will never understand LOL) or if his answer to it was just to keep her sweet?

[cazzz1975]

the answer has already been given.....

[Petal~flower]

dakota

are you m/f?

am wondering now, if you are asking the Q for yourself?

[pastafreak]

So-each of them-knowing that there was a third person involved...his girlfriend......CONTINUED with this one off and what followed??? One is as bad as the other,and on that basis they deserve each other.

[Petal~flower]

I agree with Pasta

Just a Question here...

When there are so many singletons in the world. Why do someone people latch on to someone who is in a relationship already!!

I have a major gripe with this one..... incase you hadn't noticed

[cazzz1975]

I do too petal, it would be nice to hear about relationships where people dont cheat for a change!

[weeal]

yeah its a difficult task finding a guy who's not a total prat

[{Dakota}]

I'm female, Petal, I'm not asking for me, I'm asking because I'm interested in other perspectives on what his answer was to her.

[cazzz1975]

will it make a difference if we all think its to keep her sweet?

[{Dakota}]

Agreed! I don't think our grandparents had this kind of troubles! Long are the days you meet at the local dance hall, get married, move in together, have kids and live happily ever after LOL