What would you do if your going out with someone but like someone else?

[ali-nook]

dont know how to word this without ounding like a **** here so here goes.

i dont want to give out names here so ok, im going out with someone named mike and i loce him so much, we've been going out for 3 month i've known him since i've been 3 and we got together and we are really close but we dont hold hands or kiss or anything the nearest we got was hugging, i am awake with this being my first boyfrine we're both shy to make a first move.

but i also like someone called bob, he is great we get along great same as mike but i know bob is more forward with things , fair enough i would still be shy to like do things but i know he would make the first move, with mike it's always me who has to make the first move.

i know bob could give me what i would like, but i am going out with mike and loved him more than bob, im so confused and about mike and bob the first names i thought of lols, please help would be appreishated

it's not like i dont love mike anymore because i do very much

[redman41]

If you like them both equally why not have a 3 some ......

[_sophie_]

Do you mind me asking how old you are?
And do you love bob though, could you?
I think if you feel your relationship with Bob could be what you wanted, then break it to Mike gently, you do love him and tell him you do, just not in the same way you used to. Hopefully you can still be friends then and keep in touch with him. If you can love Bob, and he can give you an extra what you want then that's what you want more!
Good luck, I hope it works out for you x

[mccfluff]

i would shag bob behind mikes back, best of both worlds

[joeluke]

Sounds like a film - Ali, Mike and Bob too

[joggerjayne]

"i am going out with mike and love him more than bob"

As so often, Grasshopper, the answer is in the question !

[craft1948]

Have a go with both of them and then make your mind up....they might both be rubbish.

[Prudie]

Were you not posting as 5924 the other day? This is all very familiar

[ali-nook]

see the thing is if i got into a relationship with bob i woudnt feel right and it woudnt feel like i love because i know he can show me affection like kissing me and etc but i know mike is just pacing himself with me.
and im 16

[mccfluff]

don't get in a arelationship with bob then, easy

[ali-nook]

im not 5924 im ali-nook totally diffrent

[ummmm]

To most grown ups cheating is morally wrong. Make a choice.

[woofgang]

Common mistake here....love isn't sex, sex isn't love...sounds to me like what you want with "bob" is what your hormones want more than your head?

[craft1948]

Being pedantic could you try using capital I's.........a very naughty banned person uses small i's all the time and it brings back bad memories.

[Woody23]

Just be friends with both. Take it easy, it takes time before "love" happens, then you'll both know (with whichever one it is...)

[ali-nook]

not that kind of thing like ahowing affection for me like hugging and keeping me close, and kissing me. but it's not that i want from him really

[ummmm]

Craft.....who?

[grasscarp]

You are 5924. They describe themselves as 16, say the relationship is going on for 3 months, with same question, uses i for I and spells very badly.

[ali-nook]

there are lots of people who cant spell so what if i use small i's there easier who the hell is 5924