I'm puzzled, please explain.

[regulo]

Let me put this out for discussion. A couple meet, marry, and have 25 years of happiness. The husband dies. After a few years the widow meets, marries, and has a further 25 years of happiness with her 2nd husband. He then dies. The wife has loved both men equally, and they her. In any afterlife, with which one shall she spend eternity? What if she must choose? What becomes of the "rejected" husband? Your thoughts much appreciated in advance.

[Mr Veritas]

I am sorry,but in my opinion as there is NO eternity,and NO afterlife,there is therefore NO problem!

[regulo]

Exactly, I'm waiting for a clear answer from the believers in an afterlife.

[NoMercy]

I don't think marriage vows apply in the afterlife. Surely if there is such a place as the hereafter, we meet up with all our loved ones.

[Old_Geezer]

If that is your opinion I'm unsure why you posted an answer ?

Marriages are normally considered to be to death do you part. So I'm unsure there is an issue. Like many things in life, and presumably after it, you would have to make a decision. You need not spend eternity with either. You may well chose to continue your path of existence by yourself or with others. Or if all three of you get along, then stay in touch.

Anyway after so many years apart you may find you have little left in common :-D

You may as well ask a similar question regarding complex relationships here on Earth. Those involved make a decision and folk must learn to deal with it.

[Old_Geezer]

:-( Too many responses between starting to write and posting.

[Old_Geezer]

:-( Too many responses between starting to write and posting.

[NoMercy]

The idea of spending all eternity with just one person doesn't hold much weight with me. I did read a book called "Between Death and Life - Conversations With A Spirit" by Dolores Cannon. It's an incredible book and really looks at the subject from a different angle. You can google the author and find out more. She has dedicated much of her life to finding out about the subject.

[joggerjayne]

I think that we all have a special "someone".

It might not be, for practical reasons, the person with whom we spend the greater part of our lives.

If there were an afterlife, them whomsoever might be in charge would be able to pair up the "special someones", I should think.

[Old_Geezer]

:-( Too many replies between starting to write a post and submitting it

[Old_Geezer]

There is something wring with this site at the moment. 3 times I tried to post something and on hitting submit the screen went to a totally different thread. And on coming back to this one there was no new posting to be seen, encouraging me to try again. Now apparently they are all visible ! Very very annoying.

[jackthehat]

Surely the fact that we have all gone to dwell with the Lord is the main point ?
We only diddle about here on earth forging relationships and bonds to while away the time until we go to 'glory'.........when we are forever living with the Lord such trivialities as earthly loves and lusts will cease to exist. We'll all be smiley and happy and rub along together in days of endless sunshine punctuated only by the need to tell 'big G' how great he is and to thank him for letting us into his realm...........several times a week/day/hour..........

Can't wait, personally...............:o)

[craft1948]

With my track record with marriages I think I'll hide behind a fluffy cloud.......

[naomi24]

Jack, //when we are forever living with the Lord such trivialities as earthly loves and lusts will cease to exist.//

Except for Muslim suicide bombers who, upon arrival in paradise, are promised a number of virgins to do with what they will. ;o)

[marval]

I believe that we go to heaven, and when we arrive we see all the people we have known before. I know my parents wanted to be together there, and I am sure they are now. I still believe that we shall all be together not segregated.

[S_C]

religion is where the " afterlife " is brought to everyones attention.
so with that in mind the answer is also in religion .
the marriage vows state until death do us part !

so with that in mind here comes my answer .

in the after the both husbands and the wife would not be together.
imagine for instance the idea of waiting for your dear wife / husband for 25 years while they remarry here in life , watching them fall in love share their lives and emotions.

this would be heart breaking for the one left alone for that period , basicly turning their " afterlife " into an afterlife of pain anguish and suffering as he / she pined for his dear un-departed.

so with all that said they all take on new partners " if indeed there would be an afterlife " .
i know is only theoretical question and you want opnions , but not exactly being a believer of the afterlife this is the only logical answer i can come up which seems to cover all the bases .

[joggerjayne]

naomi24 ...

I thought suicide bombers had all given up ... because until they saw Susan Boyle on telly, they hadn't realised what a virgin looked like.

[Marijn]

Jack the hat, your answered made me laugh out loud. I loved it!

[beso]

Nobody seems to have noticed that marriage is "Until death do us part".

Most presume that tin the afterlife we have no body to and hence no pleasures of the flesh. Consequently there is no sexual jealousy. However the Juhovas insist that heaven is the cleansed Earth and they are usually pretty literal.

Perhaps without a body we become quantum objects and can simultanelously spend one on one time with everyone.

Potentially each person experiences their own private heaven and all the people there behave exactly as each of us wants. Each soul lives in as many alternative realities as required. Each husband has an afterlife where the other guy wasn't admitted while the wife enjoys a threesome where the guys are entirely focussed on her and barely notice each other.

[society]

Everyone will live happily and in unity.